Finding My Voice: No Questions Left Unanswered

By Brian Brown © 2017


Shortly after I graduated high school, I met my first love. He came from a strict family. My family was different - my parents were newly divorced, and I found my rebellion by piercing various parts of my face and bleaching my hair blond. We were literally from different sides of the world - but together we seemed to work.

One difference that I was unprepared for was the most private part of our bodies. He had something that I did not. In my youthful naivety, I sincerely believed that this was merely because he was a different race. I legitimately assumed that this 'extra' thing that he had was just something that Asians had and White Americans did not. During this time, I passed health class in high school but was still none the wiser, because this was never addressed.

Alex went off to college and we eventually parted ways. It was years later that I learned the truth about his body; and it was an ugly truth about my own.

We were not different at all - I had this part also at one point, but it had been taken away from me.

I knew without question that his body was normal - not mine.

I briefly found solace in pretending I was normal. I used to hang out in internet chat rooms and pretend that I was intact. To lie to these strangers whom I would never meet absolved me of ever dealing with my own reality.

It was years later that my next door neighbor was having a baby boy. She and I were very close at the time and she reached out for advice. She was the first person that I ever shared my story with -- in its entirety -- with very personal, intimate details. Her response, after I confided everything to her, is one that I will never forget: "We are doing it, no questions asked." It was that point that I realized my own personal experiences would never truly matter until her husband was willing to deal with his own issues.

I needed the courage to continue to speak up, to press on, to educate, to make real change. This is something I am so thankful to have found in Intact Rhode Island. They empowered me in this way so that there are no longer any "No questions asked..." statements. I am providing the answers to these questions -- whether they are asked or not.

I am Intact Connecticut and despite widely spread efforts to hide the truth, I am not afraid of misconceptions about the male body anymore.


Read more from Brian at FB.com/IntactCT

If you are local to another area, find locals who are speaking up near you: SavingSons.org/p/local-chapters.html

Fathers - if you are expecting a son, join in discussions, ask questions, find answers: FB.com/groups/TINFamily 

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Men Speak



The following items are by and for men on the topic of genital cutting and restoration.

SOS Men Speak album on Facebook: https\://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.487363627949430.115346.166998263319303

My Story of Ritual Abuse: DrMomma.org/2009/12/my-story-of-ritual-abuse.html

Foreskin is Better: From a Man Who Has Experienced Both: SavingSons.org/2016/04/foreskin-is-better-from-man-who-has.html

Men Ask 'Why was I circumcised?': DrMomma.org/2011/02/men-ask-why-was-i-circumcised.html

Mum, why was I circumcised? (video documentary) DrMomma.org/2010/09/mom-why-was-i-circumcised.html

Circumcision: Our Bodies, Our Choices: Goodmenproject.com/featured-content/hesaid-circumcision-our-bodies-our-choices-part-2-men-and-their-members

The Circumcision Secret: DrMomma.org/2009/12/circumcision-secret.html

This is who I am: Stopthecutting.wordpress.com/2013/05/29/this-is-who-i-am

To the Happily Circumcised American Man: SavingSons.org/2013/06/to-happily-circumcised-american-man.html

Men Do Complain (site): Mendocomplain.com

The Lost List (What is lost to circumcision for adult men): Norm.org/lost.html

Global Survey of Circumcision Harm: Circumcisionharm.org

Real Men Protect Babies - Fathers Breaking the Cycle photo album: https\://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.609017385784053.1073741829.166998263319303

Circumcision Class Action Lawsuit: http\://www.sueeasy.com/class_action_detail.php?case_id=258

Circumcised - Sues and Wins (video clip): http\://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H8szj1jFCWM

Vulnerability of Men: http\://www.udonet.com/circumcision/vincent/vulnerability_of_men.html
If link does not work, email SavingSons@gmail.com or pdf at The Vulnerability of Men by Vincent Bach - Colorado NOCIRC

Birth of an Activist: Reflections from David Wilson of Stop Infant Circumcision SavingSons.org/2013/04/birth-of-activist-reflections-from.html

Realization of Circumcision SavingSons.org/2012/07/realization-of-circumcision.html

I don't want to be an intactivist... SavingSons.org/2012/12/i-dont-want-to-be-intactivist.html

Removing Pleasure: Male Genital Mutilation DrMomma.org/2011/07/removing-pleasure-how-male-genital.html

Circumcision: Will you make the cut? DrMomma.org/2009/09/circumcision-will-you-make-cut.html

Intact vs. Circumcised: A Significant Difference [Photos by men for this article; composed by female scholar in the field of human sexuality]: DrMomma.org/2011/08/intact-or-circumcised-significant.html

★ Penn Jillette of Penn & Teller on Circumcision and 'Matching Penises' SavingSons.org/2013/03/happy-birthday-penn-jillette.html

★ Dr. Ryan McAllister's Georgetown lecture "Elephant in the Hospital": Library.georgetown.edu/gelardin/showcase/entries/circumcision-elephant-hospital

★ Dr. Christopher Guest's video "Circumcision: The Whole Story" http\://youtu.be/SeAXantm4tE

★ The Real Reason You're Circumcised from College Humor: Collegehumor.com/video/6966989/the-real-reason-youre-circumcised

Foreskin Restoration Resources: SavingSons.org/2009/10/foreskin-restoration.html

Beginner's Guide to Restoring Foreskin: RestoringForeskin.org/beginners-guide-foreskin-restoration



"I still PROFOUNDLY resent that my human right to a whole body, to choose how I express my religion, and to choose how I experience sex for the rest of my life, was ripped away with the flesh of my genitals, when I was helpless to do anything in protest but scream! Stop Routine Infant Circumcision!" -Garrett Wolfe


"The only voice I had during my circumcision was my screams of pain." -Travis Wisdom


Mario Lopez - an intact celebrity who is always speaking up!


"I endured [circumcision] when I was a little over 3 years of age. It is brutal, painful and barbaric. Please don't do this to your sons." -Andy


Nickolas K. - Circumcised at 18: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NAHGFx95D80

"I only date circumcised women. It just looks better." Supporting male genital mutilation is sexist. T-shirt from Made By Momma's intact advocacy collection.
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