Finding My Voice: No Questions Left Unanswered

By Brian Brown © 2017


Shortly after I graduated high school, I met my first love. He came from a strict family. My family was different - my parents were newly divorced, and I found my rebellion by piercing various parts of my face and bleaching my hair blond. We were literally from different sides of the world - but together we seemed to work.

One difference that I was unprepared for was the most private part of our bodies. He had something that I did not. In my youthful naivety, I sincerely believed that this was merely because he was a different race. I legitimately assumed that this 'extra' thing that he had was just something that Asians had and White Americans did not. During this time, I passed health class in high school but was still none the wiser, because this was never addressed.

Alex went off to college and we eventually parted ways. It was years later that I learned the truth about his body; and it was an ugly truth about my own.

We were not different at all - I had this part also at one point, but it had been taken away from me.

I knew without question that his body was normal - not mine.

I briefly found solace in pretending I was normal. I used to hang out in internet chat rooms and pretend that I was intact. To lie to these strangers whom I would never meet absolved me of ever dealing with my own reality.

It was years later that my next door neighbor was having a baby boy. She and I were very close at the time and she reached out for advice. She was the first person that I ever shared my story with -- in its entirety -- with very personal, intimate details. Her response, after I confided everything to her, is one that I will never forget: "We are doing it, no questions asked." It was that point that I realized my own personal experiences would never truly matter until her husband was willing to deal with his own issues.

I needed the courage to continue to speak up, to press on, to educate, to make real change. This is something I am so thankful to have found in Intact Rhode Island. They empowered me in this way so that there are no longer any "No questions asked..." statements. I am providing the answers to these questions -- whether they are asked or not.

I am Intact Connecticut and despite widely spread efforts to hide the truth, I am not afraid of misconceptions about the male body anymore.



Also by Brown: 





*******

Men Speak



The following items are by and for men on the topic of genital cutting and restoration.

SOS Men Speak album on Facebook: https\://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.487363627949430.115346.166998263319303

My Story of Ritual Abuse: DrMomma.org/2009/12/my-story-of-ritual-abuse.html

My emasculation at the age of 8: SavingSons.org/2017/08/my-emasculation-at-age-of-8.html

Foreskin is Better: From a Man Who Has Experienced Both: SavingSons.org/2016/04/foreskin-is-better-from-man-who-has.html

To the Happily Circumcised American Man: SavingSons.org/2013/06/to-happily-circumcised-american-man.html

The Circumcision Secret: DrMomma.org/2009/12/circumcision-secret.html

Coming Out Twice: SavingSons.org/2017/07/coming-out-twice.html

Men Ask 'Why was I circumcised?': DrMomma.org/2011/02/men-ask-why-was-i-circumcised.html

Mum, why was I circumcised? (video documentary) DrMomma.org/2010/09/mom-why-was-i-circumcised.html

Stop Using the Latin Word for Genital Mutilation: SavingSons.org/2017/07/stop-using-latin-word-for-genital.html

Genital Mutilation Isn't Only Done to Females: SavingSons.org/2017/07/genital-mutilation-doesnt-only-happen.html

I will not assume: SavingSons.org/2017/07/by-michael-dulin-2017-i-will-not-assume.html



Birth of an Activist: Reflections from David Wilson of Stop Infant Circumcision SavingSons.org/2013/04/birth-of-activist-reflections-from.html

Realization of Circumcision SavingSons.org/2012/07/realization-of-circumcision.html

I don't want to be an intactivist... SavingSons.org/2012/12/i-dont-want-to-be-intactivist.html

Finding My Voice: No Questions Left Unanswered: SavingSons.org/2017/04/finding-my-voice-no-questions-left.html


You Didn't Fail: Thank you for speaking up: SavingSons.org/2016/05/you-didnt-fail-thank-you-for-speaking-up.html

Circumcision: Our Bodies, Our Choices: Goodmenproject.com/featured-content/hesaid-circumcision-our-bodies-our-choices-part-2-men-and-their-members

This is who I am: Stopthecutting.wordpress.com/2013/05/29/this-is-who-i-am

Men Do Complain (site): Mendocomplain.com

The Lost List (What is lost to circumcision for adult men): Norm.org/lost.html

Global Survey of Circumcision Harm: Circumcisionharm.org

Real Men Protect Babies - Fathers Breaking the Cycle photo album: https\://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.609017385784053.1073741829.166998263319303

Circumcision Class Action Lawsuit: http\://www.sueeasy.com/class_action_detail.php?case_id=258

Circumcised - Sues and Wins (video clip): http\://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H8szj1jFCWM

Vulnerability of Men: http\://www.udonet.com/circumcision/vincent/vulnerability_of_men.html
If link does not work, email SavingSons@gmail.com or pdf at The Vulnerability of Men by Vincent Bach - Colorado NOCIRC

Removing Pleasure: Male Genital Mutilation DrMomma.org/2011/07/removing-pleasure-how-male-genital.html

Circumcision: Will you make the cut? DrMomma.org/2009/09/circumcision-will-you-make-cut.html

Intact vs. Circumcised: A Significant Difference [Photos by men for this article; composed by female scholar in the field of human sexuality]: DrMomma.org/2011/08/intact-or-circumcised-significant.html

Honoring Jonathon Conte (1981-2016): SavingSons.org/2016/05/jonathon-conte-1981-2016.html

★ Penn Jillette of Penn & Teller on Circumcision and 'Matching Penises' SavingSons.org/2013/03/happy-birthday-penn-jillette.html

★ Dr. Ryan McAllister's Georgetown University lecture "Elephant in the Hospital": Library.georgetown.edu/gelardin/showcase/entries/circumcision-elephant-hospital

★ Dr. Christopher Guest's video "Circumcision: The Whole Story" http\://youtu.be/SeAXantm4tE

★ Whose Body, Whose Rights? Video documentary on genital cutting: SavingSons.org/2017/01/whose-body-whose-rights-circumcision.html

★ The Real Reason You're Circumcised from College Humor: Collegehumor.com/video/6966989/the-real-reason-youre-circumcised

Puerto Rico: Study finds circumcised men more likely to have sexually transmitted infections than intact men: SavingSons.org/2016/10/circumcised-men-more-likely-to-have.html

Foreskin Restoration Resources: SavingSons.org/2009/10/foreskin-restoration.html

Beginner's Guide to Restoring Foreskin: RestoringForeskin.org/beginners-guide-foreskin-restoration



"I still PROFOUNDLY resent that my human right to a whole body, to choose how I express my religion, and to choose how I experience sex for the rest of my life, was ripped away with the flesh of my genitals, when I was helpless to do anything in protest but scream! Stop Routine Infant Circumcision!" -Garrett Wolfe


"The only voice I had during my circumcision was my screams of pain." -Travis Wisdom


Mario Lopez - an intact celebrity who is always speaking up!



"I endured [circumcision] when I was a little over 3 years of age. It is brutal, painful and barbaric. Please don't do this to your sons." -Andy


"[My mom] expressed sadness while recalling how she saw me being tortured and cut against my will..." -Chad


Nickolas K. - Circumcised at 18: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NAHGFx95D80


Eddy's powerful montage with the phrases "I didn't consent" and "Intact Genitals are a Human Right."


"That first betrayal hurt the most... I'd rather be intact." -Garrett Wolfe, who says he does not wish to be an 'intactivist' and explains further: SavingSons.org/2012/12/i-dont-want-to-be-intactivist.html

Genitals should not have unnecessary scars.


"Last night I flipped through the Dec '12 issue of Playgirl, wondering where all the intact men were, and came across an article with the title '25 Must-Try Sex Moves.' The very first point reads: 'Honor The Foreskin: If your man is lucky enough to still have one, he's got a pleasure center at the tip of his penis that circumcised guys can only imagine. Take full advantage of it. He'll be glad you did.' I thought it was really awesome to see the truth being shared! Every little bit helps!" -M.


"When I see a circumcision video, I see myself being strapped down to a cold board. When I hear a baby shrieking in pain, I imagine that I must have shrieked the same way while someone's hands ran a blade across my genitals. And each time, I am reminded that this was an intentional wound. A wound that was discussed, planned, bought and sold. And yet I am forced to face the reality that there will never be justice for victims such as I." -Jonathon Conte, during the one and only time he 'suited up' in bloodstain to bring an idea to the U.S. that was carried out in artistic performance in Berlin.  Photo by Cynthia, Intact Louisiana.


Go Intact - and don't look back! via the men at RestoringForeskin.org


"This is me and my husband with Penn Jillette (of Penn and Teller). We went to his Las Vegas show this week and brought a sign with his quote 'Put down the knife, step away from the baby and do no harm!' for him to autograph. He loved it! Told me it was beautiful and then wanted to hold it for the photo." -Melynda Petersen

Hear more from Penn on the subject of circumcision: SavingSons.org/2013/03/happy-birthday-penn-jillette.html



Imagine this exam was answered in such a way by a woman who was a survivor of genital cutting... it is unlikely she would be deemed 'paranoid' and 'delusional' for seeing circumcision as trauma inflicted upon her body. Why are men denied the same processing of what was done to them? Make no doubt, it is another form of sexism - one we often do not recognize as a society when we deny men the ability to express and work through what was done to them, and their varied responses to such assault.


"Another year has passed and still my foreskin hasn't tried to kill me." -Jeremy K.


One gentleman wrote today to ask that his reflections and experiences be shared anonymously. The belittling of men's experiences of sexual assault and the aftermath of such things is never okay on any level. Just as we would afford a woman who lived through circumcision and its impact on her body/life a voice to express herself in whatever fashion suited her, so also are men deserving of the same. "The Lost List" http://www.norm.org/lost.html


Author and journalist, Bill Coles, writes, "Of all the ludicrous pieces of claptrap that I have heard spouted about Prince George, there is nothing quite so bonkers - so utterly fantastical - as this idea that the boy is going to be circumcised. Where has this nutso idea come from? I know exactly where: the United States.

Over in the US, it is quite common for wee boys to be circumcised, whatever their religion. Well good for them. But because circumcision is rife in the US, some doltish royal commentators have got it into their heads that it's happening all over the world. I can just imagine the newsroom conversation: "Hey! American boys get circumcised - so when's this Prince Georgie going to be done? Who's gonna do it? What will happen to the royal foreskin? Find out - now! The public has a right to know!"

Ahemmm! Do I need to spell it out? Circumcision is a rarity in the UK - and is generally only done for religious or medical reasons. To think that Prince William and Kate are even considering having their boy circumcised is just crackers. [...] You might as well speculate that Wills is going to have George's name tattooed onto his bicep..." http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/bill-coles/prince-george-being-circumcised_b_3724834.html


"I still remember my circumcision agony. I was 5 years old, four adults held me down while another sliced my foreskin, I was still awake and the pain was unbearable. I still cry when I think about it sometimes. What angered me even more was learning that circumcision was not going to give me any real benefits, and that the procedure could have killed me. I will never forgive my parents for putting me through that. I'm very happy to see that there are people who are speaking out against this atrocity. No child should have to suffer what I suffered. That was in Pakistan, I live in New Zealand now where male circumcision is less than 7% and nearly all doctors here refuse to do it. I will certainly not be circumcising any of my children. Long live intactness." -Mohammed


More men are speaking up each and every day to abolish the outlandish myths that surround the intact male body in North American culture. It is no surprise that the vast majority of those who have retained their full genitals for a lifetime have *never* experienced the 'problems' that fairytales of a cutting culture invent. Functions of the Foreskin: DrMomma.org/2009/09/functions-of-foreskin-purposes-of.html


One truth about today's men who were circumcised as infants is this: they did not consent to having a part of their genitals permanently removed from their body. Here, Eddy reminds us of this fact in photographic representation. Please allow your son to grow into a man who maintains full agency over his body and his genitals.


"I only date circumcised women. It just looks better." Supporting male genital mutilation is sexist. T-shirt from Made By Momma's intact advocacy collection.

Genital mutilation isn't only forced on females.




Related Posts Plugin for WordPress, Blogger...