Forced Retraction of My Son: I Said NO!

By Shaina D. C. © 2016

To the health care "professionals" who forcibly retracted my 9 month olds foreskin: I said no.

I told you I did NOT want you to do that to my son.

I asked for an alternative way to collect a urine sample. I did not consent.

Yet you did it not just once, but twice. After you failed the first time, you sent in a man to do it. After he demanded, I let him, and he told me that my son should have been circumcised because now he is susceptible to getting UTIs.

You said I should be retracting his foreskin often to clean it. You lied to me and said, "When I was young it was mandatory." You are a paramedic. You are approximately 10 years older than me. Yet it seems that you know absoluetly nothing about the normal intact penis and foreskin.

I asked if you were circumcised. You said yes, of course.  I wasn't even surprised. You told me it wouldn't hurt my son. You said, "It's just a little bit."

You lied to me.

I sat there crying while my son screamed in pain, while you ripped his foreskin back, in order to shove a catheter inside him.

Even though I said no. More than once.

You laid on top if my son to prevent him from kicking and flailing from the pain. Did you even wear gloves while you assaulted my son? It was all for nothing... The urine analysis came back perfect. No issues at all.

You lied when you said it would not hurt. Six days later, and my son's penis is still red and inflamed.

He still smacks my hand away if I try to touch it to inspect it. He still screams during every poopy diaper change. You hurt my son. For nothing. Even though I said no. He felt it. He still feels it.

You preyed and targeted an emotional mother, because you didn't agree with her. You guilted her for leaving her son intact, because your pride tells you that your penis is what every penis should look like. You assisted in preforming an unnecessary procedure, without consent from an infant's parent.

You perpetuated the myths used to scare parents into mutilating their baby boys.

I am not posting this to start a debate. I am posting this to inform parents that not every health care professional knows the proper way to care for an infant with an intact penis. I am posting this because I know I am not alone. My son is not alone. This happens daily in hospitals, and many people, including myself, are too scared to speak up again or louder. I regret sitting there in fear while these health care workers hurt my baby. I betrayed my son and I couldn't protect him from the people many think they are safe with...


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Happy Father's Day! #DadsSavingSons

Have a special baby-saving dad in your life? Each year we celebrate dads who really make a difference in the lives of little ones around them (2013 / 2014 / 2015). This is your chance to celebrate a father and genital autonomy advocate you know and love ~ and maybe have him win a little something in the process.

Saving Our Sons invites you to share a picture and brief story of the father you know who stands up for the basic human right of genital autonomy. Email to and we will add the son-saving dad in your life to the Real Men Save Babies album.

On Father's Day we will be drawing 10 winners from among submissions who will each win a "Thank you, Dad!" pack of advocacy items. Winners can select a favorite wristband, plus stickers or info cards to spread the #i2 love further in their communities.

Thank you to all the men and their loved ones this Father's Day who are making sure the next generation grows up with all they were born to have. ❤

If you would like to make a donation in honor of the special man in your life, we invite you to do so below or by sending via mail. We will ship "Thank you, Dad!" packs to everyone who donates on behalf of a dad (please feel free to specify wristband and stickers selection).

Saving Our Sons
P.O. Box 1302
VA Beach, VA 23451

SOS operates exclusively on a grassroots volunteer and donation basis, and we work hard to be at every baby and maternity expo across the U.S. that we are able to fund; to meet with thousands of expecting parents each month; to host free classes for expecting families; to daily respond to letters, calls and email in regards to intact care and circumcision cases; to send professional materials to physicians and nursing staff who are known to be retracting babies and children; and to make a positive, pro-intact presence at every event and demonstration we're able to host, to ensure this topic stays at the forefront of discussion and social change. SOS needs typically outweigh donations, so yours is especially appreciated and will be immediately put to real-life baby-saving use! 

2016 Winners
(Drawn at on Father's Day / Check back to see winners!)

Read these father's stories and more in the Real Men Save Babies album.

Winners: Please email with your choice of wristband or button, stickers or info cards to plant around town, and your name and address for mailing.

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