Top 20 of 2020


It's been quite the year of challenges, and we have dearly missed seeing you all in person. First our early 2020 expos were postponed, and then Genital Integrity Awareness Week was put on hold, followed by the need to delay our next SOS Odyssey (traveling pro-intact rallies across the nation), and so many more expos, fairs, community baby showers, and the hundreds of events we host booths at in a typical year. We miss you! And we miss the in-person baby-saving! 

But through the challenges, we have persevered and looked for new ways we could meet people where they are at, get materials into the hands of as many families expecting babies as possible this year, and continue the life-change going forward. We know that despite the hiccups of 2020 -- and sometimes even because of them -- thousands more families have been reached, and babies have been born this year who will remain happily intact for a lifetime. Cycles are breaking. Minds are changing. Hearts are opening. And we're becoming an intact nation once again. Thank YOU for being a part of this important work we do. 

We cannot wait until we can serve together again side by side in person - at the expos and on the streets! 'Till then, we have gathered the Top 20 Most Read items at Saving Our Sons during 2020. Check out those you missed, share your favorites, and pass on the love we pray comes through in our intact advocacy and education. 💜 If you'd like to write for SavingSons, or contribute a piece that you've previously written, email SavingSons@gmail.com with a copy or link to your article. We welcome new voices in the movement, and value a diverse range of collaboration for the cause. 

Year-end family photos on this page were shared with Saving Our Sons in celebration of an intact future!
If you have a photo you'd like to share for future use with pro-intact messages, graphics, or articles, email SavingSons@gmail.com or via Messenger to the Saving Our Sons page. 

Top 20 of 2020

20. Why Intact Men Have Bigger Peniseshttp://www.savingsons.org/2010/01/why-intact-men-have-bigger-penises.html

19. Circumcision to Reduce Men's Sexual Pleasurehttp://www.savingsons.org/2012/07/circumcision-to-reduce-mens-sexual.html

18. Saturday Evening Post December 1981 Circumcision Publicationhttp://www.savingsons.org/2008/08/saturday-evening-post-december-1981.html

17. Foreskin Restorationhttp://www.savingsons.org/2009/10/foreskin-restoration.html

16. Rosemary Romberg (with love and respect for a dear friend and fellow baby-saver taken too soon): http://www.savingsons.org/2020/02/rosemary-romberg.html

15. Do Not Retract Information Pack - Medical Professionals for Genital Autonomy: http://www.savingsons.org/2015/07/retracting-clinician-information-pack.html

14. How to Put a Condom on an Intact Penishttp://www.savingsons.org/2017/09/how-to-put-condom-on-intact-penis.html

13. Ear Drum Rupture During Circumcisionhttp://www.savingsons.org/2017/08/ear-drum-rupture-during-circumcision.html

12. Fine Touch Pressure Thresholds of the Human Penis: Intact and Circumcisedhttp://www.savingsons.org/2014/06/fine-touch-pressure-thresholds-of-human.html

11. My Son Committed Suicide Due to Circumcisionhttp://www.savingsons.org/2019/04/my-son-committed-suicide-due-to.html

10. If This Stained Circumstraint Could Talkhttp://www.savingsons.org/2012/06/if-this-stained-circumstraint-could.html

9. The Plastibell Liehttp://www.savingsons.org/2012/03/plastibell-lie.html

8. Frail and Broken: Painful Memories of My Son's Circumcisionhttp://www.savingsons.org/2014/01/frail-and-broken-painful-memories-of-my.html

7. Painful Sex: How 8 Months of Foreskin Restoration Makes it Betterhttp://www.savingsons.org/2012/09/painful-sex-how-8-months-of-foreskin.html

6. Intact or Circumcised: A Significant Difference in the Adult Penishttp://www.savingsons.org/2011/08/intact-or-circumcised-significant.html

5. U.S. Hospital Circumcision Rates by Statehttp://www.savingsons.org/2012/11/us-hospital-circumcision-rates-by-state.html

4. Neonatal Foreskin Used In dōTERRA Researchhttp://www.savingsons.org/2018/12/neonatal-foreskin-used-in-doterra.html

3. Should I Circumcise? The pros and cons of infant circumcisionhttp://www.savingsons.org/2014/12/should-i-circumcise-pros-and-cons-of.html

2. Foreskin and Its 16+ Functionshttp://www.savingsons.org/2015/09/foreskin-and-its-16-functions-not-just.html

#1 Most Read item at SavingSons in 2020: 

Neonatal Circumcision [A video for healthcare professionals] - Gomco circumcision: http://www.savingsons.org/2011/01/neonatal-circumcision-video-for.html


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You Didn't Fail: Thank you for speaking up

By James Ketter © 2016


To all my intactivist friends who know what it is like to try with all your heart to educate expecting parents, to try and spare a child from genital cutting, only to learn later that his parents had him cut anyway...

I thank you. 

You should never, ever feel like YOU failed or did anything wrong.

Let me tell you, as a victim of genital cutting myself, what you did for that baby boy:

You were the only one who spoke for him at his most vulnerable.

Do you know how incredibly HUGE that is?

Do you know how important that will one day be to him?

What it will mean to him?

Let me answer that.

No one spoke out for me.
No one.
Not one single person in my entire family, group of family friends, or even my community spoke even one single word for my sake when I was vulnerable and needed protection.
Not one damn soul.
Not a syllable of protest.

YOU didn't stay silent.

YOU cared enough to make your feelings and facts known.

You were the person who put the needs of those babies ahead of your own.

You were the only one who truly granted them their humanity.

Do you know what I would give to have just one person in my life to have given me a gift like that? Just one single person in my family, or my community, who wasn't complicit, silent, or uninterested in my fate at as a human being. Do you know what it would mean to me to have just one single person in my life who actually TRIED to save me? It would mean the world.

I actually have tears in my eyes thinking about this. I have no one who even tried to speak for me. To everyone else I was nothing more than disposable property. I would kill to have someone like you in my life. Someone who cared. Even if she didn't succeed in saving me. Just to know one single person cared enough to try might be enough to change things for me immeasurably.

You didn't fail.

You are a HERO.

I love you for speaking out. I thank you from the bottom of my heart for trying so hard. You've given those poor boys a voice when they had none. And that means so much more than you can possibly imagine.

"Any time you speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves, you are heroically impacting lives and changing the world." -Danelle Day

Also by James Ketter:

Foreskin is Better: From a man who has experienced both
http://www.SavingSons.org/2016/04/foreskin-is-better-from-man-who-has.html

I Researched Circumcision! ...Did you REALLY?
http://www.SavingSons.org/2014/10/i-researched-circumcision-did-you-really.html

Meatal Stenosis: Growing up with circumcision pain
http://www.SavingSons.org/2014/09/meatal-stenosis-growing-up-with.html


Related Reading:

Why I Speak Up
http://www.SavingSons.org/2012/05/why-i-speak-up.html

You Made a Difference for That ONE
http://www.SavingSons.org/2010/01/you-made-difference-for-that-one.html

Example Letter for a Friend
http://www.SavingSons.org/2014/03/example-letter-for-friend-relative.html

Carding a Store: Tips for Effective Seed Planting
http://www.SavingSons.org/2015/01/carding-store-tips-and-locations-for.html

I tried (MGM Memorial)
http://www.SavingSons.org/2007/01/mgm-memorial.html


Communities:

Saving Our Sons Community:
FB.com/groups/SavingOurSons

Intact: Healthy, Happy, Whole:
FB.com/groups/IntactHealthy

Intactivists:
FB.com/groups/Intactivists

Peaceful Intact Education:
FB.com/groups/PeacefulEducation



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May the Foreskin Be With You! Star Wars - Intact Style!

By Erin Dutra
Director, Intact Rhode Island



I have to admit, I have never actually watched an entire Star Wars movie, but my husband is an avid Star Wars fan, so naturally our kids are too. Over the past few years of making Star Wars Halloween costumes and planning Star Wars birthday parties, I've grown familiar with the characters and become a little more into it than I ever would have expected. I find some of the characters cute - (have you seen an ewok? Adorable!) -  and I become a little excited when I see a Yoda shirt or R2-D2 lunchbox in the store.

My son was born on Star Wars Weekend (an event I only know because of my husband: "May the 4th be with you!" and "Revenge of the 5th"). So in honor of my son's birthday, I decided to create a fun, pro-intact meme that fit with the Star Wars theme to share on Facebook. My original idea was, "Your little Jedi needs his whole lightsaber" ...and then several other ideas started to surface. Soon, I was cracking myself up with witty slogans - I may not be a true Star Wars fan, but I'm clearly a true nerd!

Once I had a handful of graphics created, I could not choose just one for my son's birthday, so I declared the entire week leading up to May the 4th "Intact Rhode Island's Star Wars WEEK." It has been so much fun seeing the response these graphics (and the accompanying informative links) have received. Over the course of the past week they have reached tens of thousands of individuals on Facebook and Pinterest, and have been shared by hundreds. Clearly, there are a lot of Star Wars fans out there, and many of them support leaving babies intact!

I think it's awesome that so many people, who may not otherwise be interested in learning about the benefits of remaining intact and the detriments of circumcision, will be intrigued by fun Star Wars images popping up in their newsfeed and will discover some important information in the process.









Learn more from Erin and her Star Wars Fun Family at Intact Rhode Island.

If you have an Intact Star Wars themed photo you'd like to share, send to SavingSons@gmail.com and we'll include it here as well. ツ

May the Foreskin Be With You

via SOS' WA chapter, Intact Washington

My face when someone says they are circumcising...
Baby Yoda • IntactBaby.org/research

Baby Yoda via IntactBaby.org

When you tell them to research the foreskin, and then watch them discover the truth about circumcision.
Baby Yoda • IntactBaby.org/research

via SOS' MI chapter, Intact Michigan

"May the FORESKIN be with you!"
~Ginger's little sweetie of Intact Wyoming

Christina's cutie, of Intact Iowa, plays in the May 4th sun in his Rumpkinz May the foreskin be with you cloth custom!

Mandi of Intact Michigan writes,
"I tried snapping a picture while my son was awake, but this little guy is a mover and a shaker, so I had to wait until he passed out. May the foreskin be with you!"

May The Foreskin Be With You T-shirts
Made By Momma tee sported by Jess at Intact Michigan today.
"May the Fourth be with you. And enjoy the Revenge of the Fifth!"

Further Intact Star Wars memes from Kristina of Intact Houston:





2018 Remake via Intact Rhode Island -
Use the foreskin, Luke!
Use the Foreskin, Luke!
Wishing you a Happy 4th!




Why Me?

By J.N.B. © 2018 



Why me?

Why was I one to be strapped to this board, against my will, fighting, struggling to get away.

Why was I one, unable to defend myself, to be subjected to that fierce horror of the blade.

Why am I one who never got to experience all that I was meant to experience -- never to feel in a way I was meant to feel.

Why am I one who must live with the consequences of another's action upon my body.

Why am I one who battles the knowing, and the unknown, all at once.

Why am I one told to let it go. To man up. Told it doesn't matter.

Why this board.

Why this way.

Why me?


-JNB




More Men Speak

Example Letter for Friend / Relative

By Danelle Day © 2014


When it comes to reaching out to expecting friends or relatives, it is typically best to get intact related materials directly into their hands as early as possible - even before their baby's sex is known. If you know this individual's address, or are able to see them in person, the ideal first move is to put physical materials in front of them. This means doing so without asking, "Can I give you something..." (which provides the opportunity for doors to close with a 'no thanks' reply).  Just give.  This can be in the form of info cards placed into a baby book, an expecting pack sent to them anonymously, or an info pack you share. In fact, there are six options for giving here, and many excellent book choices to include in a gift (with a card or two) inexpensively available on Amazon.

If you do not know someone's mailing address, and cannot otherwise get materials physically in front of them, the next best thing is to send a heartfelt message via email or Facebook message. Below is one example of a message that has been altered slightly to fit different situations, but has overwhelmingly positive results from my work in related fields over the past 22 years. It has been curtailed in recent years to send on Facebook in a two-part message, but can also be put together with two attached images in one email.

The reason it is in two parts is so that both key images and links show up directly with a message. It is important when providing items to expecting parents that things are not overwhelming (no more than 2 primary links that will lead to more), and that they spark curiosity.

When sending on Facebook, FIRST copy/paste into an email of your own, and alter text as needed, add links, etc. Be sure you have quality copies of the images downloaded and all editing is taken care of. THEN be sure to "Expand to Full Message" on Facebook before pasting text, re-reading it, and adding the first image. This will allow your image to be sent at the end of a PM instead of the beginning. Send. And then do the same with the second part of the message. The result will be a flawless message with 2 images that are easy to read, and flows well.

If you cannot send a message to someone for any reason, you also have the option of asking a leader with Saving Our Sons to write to this individual. They will receive a similar message (either by email or on Facebook, depending on your contact options). See the bottom of this page of options for doing so. The key is to reach out to every expecting individual you know in one positive way or another.

Remember: assuming the best is a good thing. Come at this with a pro-intact, positive attitude -- all babies come into this world intact, all are deserving of their full bodies, and all parents want what is best for their little ones. We merely need to direct friends/family to resources so they are able to see the benefits of keeping their child intact; and learn the functions of the foreskin - why their baby is born with all he needs to have in the first place - while myth busting along the way if/when questions arise. There are many reasons that intact care is presented in the first part of this message (something that applies to *all* parents when their son is born) and that the term 'circumcision' is only used one time throughout the entire two-part message. It boils down to an understanding in how the human brain typically flows when presented with new ideas and language in a certain fashion, especially information and language used with expecting mothers.

Example Letter

Part One
Fill in the blanks as appropriate to your friend's location and situation; alter the opening sentences as they apply to you. Keep things friendly, brief, and personal. Find local Chapters here to include specific to your friend's state: http://www.SavingSons.org/p/local-chapters.html The reason this is important is so that this individual knows they are not alone in their area - there are many families local to them who are keeping their sons intact too, and they have options to become connected (or merely snoop out of curiosity to see what is happening in their area). 

Hi _________,

Big congrats on your little one on the way! Boys are such bundles of fun and love. I always thought I wanted a few girls... and now can't imagine life without my two little guys. ♥

I wanted to drop you a note because one of the areas of my line of work (and passion for moms and their babies) is with clinicians and preventing the forced retraction of baby boys at birth and in childhood. I believe you may be birthing in ___(state)___ and we are frequently meeting with physicians there due to the higher than average rate for retraction in infancy. I thought these items may be useful to have before your little one arrives. If you'd like anything in hard copy (a 'don't retract' baby band; intact care cards; diaper tab stickers, etc.) I'm happy to send them to you.  :)

Intact care resource page: http://www.DrMomma.org/2009/06/how-to-care-for-intact-penis-protect.html

If printing items to take to the hospital, or have in a chart, there are several links to medical organization statements on intact care near the bottom of this page: http://www.SavingSons.org/2015/07/retracting-clinician-information-pack.html

There is also a local chapter (Intact _their state_) near you as well: FB.com/Intact_(state abbreviation)__

Select your favorite shade of Intact Sticker to include at the end of Part One

Part Two 
Send part two immediately after (having this pre-edited in an email to copy/paste), so that both attached images come up with each individual message on Facebook one after another. In an email, they could be combined and both items attached. 

This resource list is also a fairly comprehensive place to investigate the topic further. The Georgetown University lecture by Dr. McAllister is especially good for research-based materials; and the College Humor video is a more light-hearted look at the subject.

Should I circumcise my son? The pros and cons of infant circumcision: http://www.SavingSons.org/2014/12/should-i-circumcise-pros-and-cons-of.html

I hope you are able to relish and soak in these last days/weeks, and have a beautiful babymoon when he arrives. If I can be of any help from afar, please don't hesitate to ask. My heartfelt passion is helping new parents more than anything.

♥ Much love,

________________

Attach the Expecting postcard in Part Two of your message.

To have this postcard (reverse side has intact and circumcision care)
plus a few other small items (intact care card, intact care sticker, Elephant in the Hospital Georgetown University card, and New Baby Visitor Guide with Foreskin Facts on the reverse side sent via mail to your friend (or to you),
find them for $1 (which becomes 30-cents after Etsy fees) plus shipping here:
https://www.etsy.com/listing/525249380/expecting-a-boy-postcards-to-a-friend



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If Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. were an Intact Advocate Alive Today...




Honoring Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. today - a leader who shared countless wise thoughts, and led a revolution in social change. 

What would he say if he were alive today to witness the treatment of so many newborn babies,
born of all skin colors in the United States?

Would he have thoughts on the continued lies pushed upon African men and women today? Or the myths that surround Black American families -- with pressures to cut their baby boys.

We can only speculate, but his words lend insight.




Photo: Nicholas B. of Saving Our Sons




U.S. Flags with Intact Info Needed for GIAW, Washington D.C. Cherry Blossom Festival


1500 hand-held U.S. flags are needed to pass out during Genital Integrity Awareness Week in Washington D.C. this year. Each flag has 2 patriotic-themed intact information sticker stapled to it (one per side) for awareness raising during this week. This year we will have "Defend HIS Freedom" on one side and "Watch American Circumcision on Netflix" on the other side of each individual flag.

Flags are *very* popular in Washington D.C. during the Cherry Blossom Festival, National Kite Festival, at the U.S. Capitol lawn, and at the White House where we march to on Saturday. We could pass out far more than 200 flags per day, but this is our goal to raise funding for, along with an extra 100 for the GIAW March (1500 total).

Frequently, chaperoned groups who will not allow students to take other intact materials from GIAW leaders will allow them to accept and take home flags (getting intact info into their hands)! It is very important to have enough of these U.S. flags (with stickers attached to each one) for every day during GIAW, and for use during the march.

At Amazon, flags are approximately $29 per set of 100. If you are able to sponsor one full day ($58), or one 1/2 day ($28) worth of flags OR any number of flags, small or large, we THANK YOU for your involvement and support of these pivotal GIAW items! To chip in here: https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=CA3SNG55J4MDU&source=url

Or via mail to:

GIAW / Saving Our Sons
P.O. Box 1302
Virginia Beach, VA 23451

Sponsors will be listed here and at the permanent GIAW site by first name / last initial only, for privacy, or with your business name and link if you'd like to include this. If you would like to cover one specific day, the march, or stickers, please mention this in a note.

GIAW FLAG SPONSORS

MONDAY (GIAW Kick-off, 200 flags):
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TUESDAY (200 flags):
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WEDNESDAY (first day of Child Abuse Prevention Month, 200 flags):
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THURSDAY (200 flags):
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FRIDAY (and the Silent Survivors Stand, 200 flags):
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SATURDAY (and the March to the White House 200 flags):
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WHITE HOUSE (+100 flags):
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SUNDAY (and the GA Clothesline, 200 flags):
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FLAG STICKER SPONSORS
(3,000 vinyl, waterproof stickers for all flags needed)
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THANK YOU!!
Intact Info Flags for tourists headed to the U.S. Capitol


Virtually ALL passerbys request a flag or two to take home with them -- until we run out of supplies.

GIAW Intact Info Flags

Kids love to hand out flags during GIAW too!

Group of students takes home flags, bracelets, and cards from the U.S. Capitol during Genital Integrity Awareness Week 2019.

Many tourists stop to talk at the U.S. Capitol and take home a flag and information.

U.S. Flags with intact information attached are the perfect item to take home from a visit to the Capitol during Genital Integrity Awareness Week!

During GIAW at the Capitol we repeatedly hear, "I didn't know that..." while sharing information respectfully and providing materials for tourists to take home with them.

Even if someone is too timid to come up and chat, they can grab a flag with intact info to take along and read on their bus...
GIAW Leaders handing out flags at White House

Watch American Circumcision on Netflix stickers

Defend HIS Freedom stickers

Men at GIAW march to the White House: Shane, Brian, Glen, Andrew

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