Should I Circumcise? The Pros and Cons of Infant Circumcision




New to the subject of infant circumcision and the benefits of the prepuce (foreskin)? The following are resources many families have found useful when looking at the subject for the first time. They are meant to be a starting point into deeper investigation and further research that is widely available today. If you only have a short period of time to spend on this topic, a blue star marks films with physicians' statements who are in practice today, as well as medical professionals' materials. If you're interested in joining in conversation with others, the following groups are safe spaces to bring up related questions: Saving Our Sons CommunityIntact: Healthy, Happy, WholeRaising BoysIt's a Boy!Peaceful Intact EducationPeaceful Parenting Community

★ Functions of the Foreskin: http://www.DrMomma.org/2009/09/functions-of-foreskin-purposes-of.html

★ Foreskin and its 16+ Functions (not 'just skin'): http://www.SavingSons.org/2015/09/foreskin-and-its-16-functions-not-just.html

★ Intact vs. Circumcised: A Significant Difference in the Adult Penis: http://www.DrMomma.org/2011/08/intact-or-circumcised-significant.html

Why did circumcision start as we now know it in the U.S.? Hear from some original doctors on the matter:
A Brief History in Physicians' Own Wordshttp://www.DrMomma.org/2007/05/circumcision-brief-history-in.html
Circumcision to Reduce Men's Pleasurehttp://www.SavingSons.org/2012/07/circumcision-to-reduce-mens-sexual.html

★ Are there medical benefits to circumcision? Read national medical statements from around the world: http://www.DrMomma.org/2014/08/medical-organization-position.html

Physicians' thoughts within the medical field todayFB.com/IntactCare
• Notably, Dr. Morton Frisch: Time for U.S. Parents to Reconsider the Acceptability of Infant Male Circumcisionhttps://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/time-for-us-parents-to-reconsider-the-acceptability-of-infant-male-circumcision_b_7031972.html
• Peer reviewed research (studies published in medical journals): http://www.DrMomma.org/2007/01/circumcision-studies.html

Well researched BOOKS written on the subject:
Marked in Your Fleshhttps://amzn.to/2ONyB34
Circumcision: A Historyhttps://amzn.to/2vkxwrk
What Your Doctor May Not Tell You About Circumcisionhttps://amzn.to/2O8R5d5
Doctors Re-examine Circumcisionhttps://amzn.to/2OdfSwN
Circumcision, The Hidden Traumahttps://amzn.to/2OcqWKt
Circumcision Exposedhttps://amzn.to/2viVpQ7
The Foreskin and Why You Should Keep Ithttps://amzn.to/2M4qiBl
Circumcision: A Jewish Perspectivehttps://amzn.to/2AJju7C
Celebrating Brit Shalomhttps://amzn.to/2nc0eWN

 VIDEO: Dr. Ryan McAllister Georgetown University video lecture, Elephant in the Hospital (also included on DVD in the Saving Our Sons Info Pack): http://www.library.georgetown.edu/gelardin/showcase/entries/circumcision-elephant-hospital

 VIDEO: Dr. Christopher Guest, Circumcision: The Whole Story: http://youtu.be/SeAXantm4tE

★ VIDEO: American Circumcision documentary on Netflix: https://www.netflix.com/title/81000861

VIDEO: Whose Body, Whose Rights? Award-winning circumcision documentary: http://www.SavingSons.org/2017/01/whose-body-whose-rights-circumcision.html

VIDEO: The Real Reason You're Circumcised from College Humor: Collegehumor.com/video/6966989/the-real-reason-youre-circumcised

VIDEO: Penn & Teller: Bullsh*t Circumcision Episode: http://www.SavingSons.org/2013/03/happy-birthday-penn-jillette.html

★ Intact Care: Drmomma.org/2009/06/how-to-care-for-intact-penis-protect.html
Circumcision Care: Nocirc.org/publish/pamphlet5.html

The two most common forms of circumcision in North American today: 
• Gomco: http://www.Savingsons.org/2011/01/neonatal-circumcision-video-for.html
• Plastibell: http://www.DrMomma.org/2009/08/plastibell-infant-circumcision.html [Note that Plastibell is the type of circumcision most often mistakenly referred to as a 'no-cutting' or 'no-blood' method.]

Outcome Statistics (Circumcised vs. Intact): http://www.DrMomma.org/2010/01/cut-vs-intact-outcome-statistics.html

Men speakhttp://www.SavingSons.org/2017/04/men-speak.html | MenMatterToo.org/men
• Facebook conversations by men: https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.487363627949430.115346.166998263319303

Over 250,000 men are restoring some of what was lost to circumcision. It improves sexual pleasure in a wide variety of ways. Google Foreskin Restoration and check out any of these resources: http://www.Savingsons.org/2009/10/foreskin-restoration.html

Psychology Today article collection: http://Savingsons.org/2011/10/psychology-today-circumcision-series.html

For those with older sons who were circumcised: 
Keeping Future Sons Intact Public Page: FB.com/FutureSons 
Discussion Group: FB.com/groups/FutureSons
Articles written by those with circumcised sons: http://www.DrMomma.org/2010/05/i-circumcised-my-son-healing-from.html 

What does this have to do with WOMEN? 
• Sex As Nature Intended It: SexAsNatureIntendedIt.com
  Book by same title: https://amzn.to/2AEyUde
• How Male Circumcision Impacts Your Love Life: http://www.DrMomma.org/2009/10/how-male-circumcision-impacts-your-love.html
• Women's Health and Male Circumcision Resource List: http://www.DrMomma.org/2009/07/how-male-circumcision-impacts-women.html

Faith Considerations on Circumcision
• Resources by/for Jews, Christians, and Muslims: http://www.DrMomma.org/2011/01/faith-considerations-on-circumcision.html
• For Jews - Intact Jewish Network
• For Muslims - Intact Muslim Network 

HIV/AIDS and the African Trials: http://www.DrMomma.org/2014/01/hiv-aids-circumcision-resources.html

50 Reasons to Leave it Alone: http://www.DrMomma.org/2010/11/50-reasons-to-leave-it-alone.html 

If you'd like to join a community of parents (many with both circumcised and intact sons) to ask questions while making your decision, you are welcome to the Intact: Healthy, Happy, Whole group. Everyone is welcome to this safe-space, non-venting community group. The Saving Our Sons Community Group is for those who are already pro-intact advocates, and families raising intact sons.


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Questions? 
Please feel free to email SavingSons(at)gmail.com any time. Several clinicians volunteer time to field questions, and if we're not able to answer, we'll seek out a place to go for further information.

If you find these resources to be of use, please help support Saving Our Sons and work we do. We continue solely by volunteers' time and generosity. See current needs at: http://www.SavingSons.org/p/sponsor-son-waiting-list.html or give directly: https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=VQSSUQFGLFZXQ



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Banning the Declawing of Cats in New York - Human Babies Deserve Better Too

Graphic by Saving Our Sons' MD Chapter, Intact Maryland

When will the time come that we grant equal protection to all babies from unnecessary and forced cutting? The ban on declawing may be good and justified and long-time-coming, but so is a ban on the unneeded medical amputation of children's genitals in the United States.

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Intact Info Booth at Boston Pride


We have the fantastic opportunity to host a large expo booth at the popular Boston Pride festivities this year! In doing so, we would distribute a variety of pro-intact items to thousands in attendance and make an enormous ripple effect for the cause. Please help us make this happen! πŸŽ‰

We need to raise $500 which will cover booth fees, rainbow flags to pass out (each with a positive intact message on 2 sides) and all the materials needed to give away at the booth.

We will update below with progress to goal (first names only for privacy, or supporting business name/link).

THANK YOU for being a part of Saving Our Sons! πŸ’œ

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Breaking the Cycle: Princess Diana says NO to Circumcision in the Royal Family

Princess Diana, Prince William, and Prince Harry

The beloved Princess Diana bucked royal tradition in 1982, and again in 1984, when she chose to keep her boys intact and not circumcise Prince William and Prince Harry. In addition, she stood up to both Queen Elizabeth and her husband, Prince Charles, who intended to cut the boys, as was customary for royal lines. Despite the majority of men in the world remaining happily intact for a lifetime, including virtually all men in England, royal-born baby boys were set apart from others by being cut at birth. In order to protect her babies and keep them whole, Diana made it clear that her sons would be treated gently from the beginning, and in doing so broke the cycle that would pave the way for Prince William and Prince Harry's own future sons (Prince George, 2013, Prince Louis, 2018, and Prince Harry's son, 2019) to remain intact as well.

Roger DesMoulins notes, "It is a matter of public record that Queen Elizabeth had her three sons circumcised, following a royal family precedent set 2-3 generations before. In the 1870s and 80s, the British upper middle and upper class decided that the penis should be bald, to discourage masturbation and to enable a boy to be raised without ever talking to him about penis hygiene. I bet the royals simply followed an aristocratic practice of that era. Diana, however, was a trained pre-school teacher who had worked before her marriage. In the course of that job, I would assume she saw natural little boys. If you've seen natural children, and are comfortable with this, you generally cannot stomach seeing those that are cut. Thus a royal custom of recent origin presumably came to an end."

Shane Brewster writes, "Diana approached circumcision like she did all aspects of her life. She looked upon it, questioned its validity, and did what she felt was right, even when it meant standing up against the traditions of the royal family. Diana broke the cycle and kept her boys whole. She was a woman who stood her ground in the face of opposition, and refused to back down. She fought for what was right and was unashamedly honest at a time, and in a place where that was unheard of -- breaking barriers and making headway in various uncharted territories. It was this character of honesty, of doing the right thing simply because it was the right thing, that we believe endeared so many people to her. In that way we believe it's appropriate to honor her memory in a way that shows the world what we've learned from 'The People's Princess' -- Be unafraid to question, even in the face of opposition. Do what is right and let those choices guide your life and the lives you touch into a better place. Question circumcision. Break the cycle."

Princess Diana was also known to be an incredibly warm and nurturing mother, standing up for what she believed best for her children. She refused to formula feed, breastfeeding her babies herself (despite being told not to do so as Princess of Wales), and spent a great deal of time bonding, playing with, and teaching her sons. She was critiqued publicly for spending so much time with her boys, taking them out on adventures to "dirty" kid-friendly places for fun, and was intricately involved in each of their daily lives.

As Princess Diana did, you too can break the cycle in your family.
Even if you have circumcised children, there are thousands keeping future sons intact.


Princess Diana and sons, Prince William and Prince Harry, out on an adventure together.
Princess Diana bucked royal tradition at the time, and kept her two sons intact.
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My son committed suicide due to circumcision

By Caroline Lowbridge
For BBC News
Read more by Lowbridge

Alex sent his mother an email before committing suicide, to let her know his reasons in detail.

"It quickly became apparent that what had just happened was a catastrophe... I died in 2015, not now."

Lesley Roberts was stunned as she read the devastating final email from her beloved son Alex Hardy.

The email had been timed to arrive on 25 November 2017, 12 hours after he killed himself. Less than an hour before the email arrived, Lesley had opened her front door to find a police officer standing there, explaining her son was dead. Alex was an intelligent and popular 23-year-old with no history of mental illness. Lesley could not understand why he would have wanted to take his own life. His email explained how the foreskin of his penis had been surgically removed two years before. This is commonly known as circumcision, but Alex had come to believe it should be regarded as "male genital mutilation". He never mentioned this to his family or friends when he was alive. Lesley did not even know her son had been circumcised. In the following months, she tried to find out more about circumcision. Why had it affected Alex so badly, and why did he feel killing himself was his only option?

Lesley said her dreams came true when she became a mom to Alex in July 1994.

Alex was the eldest of Lesley's three sons and had been very much longed for, having been conceived after fertility treatment. Lesley says her "dreams came true" when she became a mother in July 1994. "He was everything I could have wished for," she says. "Gorgeous, easygoing, and adoring of his younger brother Thomas who arrived following more treatment almost three years later." He also adored his baby brother James, who was born when Alex was 13.

The walls and windowsills of Lesley's home in Cheshire are covered in photos of all of them. Alex sailed through his education and was particularly gifted at English, so much so that his old school established the Alex Hardy Creative Writing Award in his memory. "Alex was passionate about history but as his English teacher I saw in him a true talent for writing," says Jason Lowe, who is now head teacher at Tarporley High School.

Alex was an intelligent child and breezed through school.

It was while on a school skiing trip to Canada, aged 14, that Alex fell in love with the country. He had enjoyed skiing as a child and the trip reignited his passion. So, when Alex reached 18, he decided to defer university and live in Canada for a year. "He fell in love completely with Canada and made so many friends and got a promotion at work," says Lesley. "After one year he rang me and said 'Mum, I'm deferring my place for university'. The same thing happened after year two." Two years turned into three, then four, and by the time of his death Alex had been living in Canada for five years and had obtained residency. "He was known as the 'super-smart Brit' with impeccable manners," says his mother. "The super-intelligent guy from the UK who helped people with their Canadian residency applications."

Alex was an avid skier and snowboarder, but said he found physical activity painful after being circumcised.

Lesley visited her son several times, both alone and with his brothers and stepfather. They were a close family, but Alex did not tell any of them he was secretly suffering with a problem with his penis. "I had issues with a tight foreskin," he eventually wrote in his final email, "but from my late teens it created issues in the bedroom as it meant my foreskin would not retract over the glans as intended which caused some awkward moments."

In 2015, still silently suffering, Alex consulted a doctor in Canada. He was given steroid cream to stretch his foreskin, but went back to the doctor after just a few weeks because he did not think the treatment was working. The medical name for Alex's problem is phimosis. It simply means his foreskin was too tight to pull back from the head of his penis, or the "glans" as Alex referred to it in his email. This is perfectly normal for boys in the early years of their life. As boys get older, their foreskin usually starts to separate from the head of the penis.

Lesley says that Alex was "intuitive, empathetic, gentle, kind, witty, quirky, unassuming, and caring."

Phimosis does not always cause problems, but if it does, problems can include difficulty urinating and pain during sex. In England, the NHS advises topical steroids and stretching techniques - and circumcision as a last resort. Over in Canada, where circumcision is more common, Alex was referred to a urologist. "He immediately suggested circumcision," Alex wrote. "I asked about stretching and he completely lied to my face and said it would not work for me. "I was mostly trusting as I felt he was the expert who knew best in this regard so with a pinch of salt I accepted it."

Lesley has since read online reviews of this urologist which have made her question his competence. One patient said she had been unable to work since having surgery for kidney problems, and he had "destroyed" her quality of life. "I'm a mother of three young children who are scared every day I will die as they see me suffering in so much pain," she wrote. "I can see how he misdiagnosed others, botched surgeries, and ruined lives," said another review. "He's dangerously incompetent." Another review of Alex's urologist read: "They left a surgical instrument in my bladder but I only got notified three months later. Run away before you get hurt!"

Lesley says she misses Alex's "big sparkly eyes, his grin, his sense of humor, and his bear hugs."

Lesley, who was "horrified" by these reviews, has asked for the urologist to be investigated. She has been told an inquiry is ongoing. The College of Physicians and Surgeons of British Columbia told the BBC it "cannot disclose the existence of a complaint against a physician, and only may do so if the complaint leads to formal discipline". "I will wish with my last breath and with all of heart that my darling son had run away," says Lesley.

Much to his regret, Alex was not able to research the urologist - or circumcision - properly at the time because his laptop was broken. He had tried researching the topic in a public computer space but felt uncomfortable, and also felt it was "too much of a taboo" to discuss with friends. So Alex booked what he believed was a minor procedure and had the surgery in 2015, at the age of 21.

Alex adored his little brother.

In the email to his mother, Alex explained, in great detail, the physical problems he had suffered afterwards. He described experiencing constant stimulation from the head of his penis, which was no longer protected by his foreskin. "These ever-present stimulated sensations from clothing friction are torture within themselves; they have not subsided/normalized from years of exposure," he wrote. "Imagine what would happen to an eyeball if the eyelid was amputated?" "He was in so much pain that it hurt to do normal physical activity," says Lesley. "He was a keen skier and snowboarder so you can imagine the pain he was in."

What is lost to male circumcision.
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Consultant urological surgeon Trevor Dorkin, who is a member of the British Association of Urological Surgeons, advises his patients that the head of their penis will be more sensitive after circumcision. However, this sensitivity usually reduces. "I always say to guys 'it's going to feel more sensitive to start with' because all of a sudden you haven't got this protection over the head of the penis and it will feel different," says Mr Dorkin, who has carried out more than 1,000 circumcisions. "But in the vast majority of the cases the man adjusts to that, the brain adjusts to that, it adjusts to the signals that are coming back through the nerves from the head of the penis."

Alex also wrote about experiencing erectile dysfunction, and burning and itching sensations, particularly from a scar which sat where his frenulum was removed. The frenulum is a band of tissue where the foreskin attaches to the under surface of the penis. Some men refer to it as their "banjo string". "It's one of the more erogenous zones so it's thought to be important in sexual function," says Mr Dorkin. "The foreskin, the head of the penis and the frenulum is a very, very sensitive area. "But again when you do circumcision sometimes the frenulum is not preserved and it doesn't necessarily have an effect on overall sexual function and enjoyment."

Men take part in the Silent Survivors Stand during Genital Integrity Awareness Week in Washington D.C.

But Alex felt his frenulum had been important. "Through its absence I can certainly verify it is the most erogenously sensitive area of the penis and male body overall," he wrote. "If someone were to amputate your clitoris you may begin to be able to understand how this feels." He wrote about experiencing cramps and contractions in his muscles and "uncomfortable" sensations which extended deep into his abdomen. Lesley does not know whether or not Alex had sex after his circumcision. "Where I once had a sexual organ I have now been left with a numb, botched stick," he wrote. "My sexuality has been left in tatters." He asked: "Nature knows best - how can chopping off a section of healthy tissue improve nature's evolved design?"

Lesley did not know her son had been circumcised until after he died.

Like many people, Lesley admits she knew very little about the foreskin or circumcision before her son died. "I didn't know anything apart from I believed it was a very routine surgery," she says. The foreskin is sometimes dismissed as a "useless flap of skin", but Mr Dorkin says it does have a purpose. "It covers the head of the penis," he says. "In terms of what's it for, it provides a bit of protection to the head of the penis. It's thought to have some sort of immunological function perhaps." Circumcision rates vary a lot depending on where you are in the world and which culture you grew up in. According to the World Health Organization, 95% of men are circumcised in Nigeria but only 8.5% of men in the UK are.

Who in the world is circumcised? Figures from the World Health Organization.
Learn more at Medical Professionals for Genital Autonomy.

Most of the men circumcised in the UK are either Muslim or Jewish, as circumcision is regarded as an important part of their religions. According to the 2011 census, Muslims accounted for 4.8% of the population in England and Wales, while 0.5% were Jewish. People who question circumcision are sometimes accused of being anti-Semitic or Islamophobic, but Lesley stresses her son was neither. "For me, this has nothing to do with religion at all. I respect all people of faith or indeed no faith, as Alex did," she says. In Canada, where Alex had moved to, an estimated 32% of men are circumcised. Alex felt male circumcision has been normalized to the extent that most people do not question it, while female circumcision has become known as female genital mutilation (FGM) and is now illegal in many countries.

The most common forms of male and female genital cutting.

He felt male circumcision should be known as "male genital mutilation" - a view shared by a growing anti-circumcision movement. "If I were a female (in Western nations) this would have been illegal, the surgeon would be a criminal and this would never have been considered as an option by doctors," Alex wrote. "I do not believe in championing one gender over another but I feel strongly that gender equality should be achieved for all." Campaigners for "genital autonomy" believe it is wrong to circumcise a baby or child - whether they are male or female - because the patient cannot give consent, and these campaigners regard circumcision as a human rights issue.

Alex was the oldest of Lesley's three sons.

Having lived with an intact penis for 21 years, Alex believed men circumcised as babies or young children would "tragically never be able to fully comprehend what has been taken away". He estimated he had been stripped of 75% of the sensitivity of his penis. However, experiences of men circumcised as adults differ dramatically. Some report a significant loss in sensitivity and greatly reduced sexual pleasure. Some report being less sensitive but say there is no change in their overall enjoyment of sex. Some are happy with their decision to get circumcised. Some, like Alex, deeply regret having it done.

Alex celebrated his 21st birthday whale watching with his mom.

Alex sought further medical help following the circumcision as well as psychological help, but never shared his problems with his family or friends. "I was with him during those two years and I think I would be lying if I said I didn't think something wasn't right," says Lesley. "I did say 'Is something bothering you? Are you OK?' and he would absolutely reassure me that he was." Lesley, who used to be a teacher, now hopes to go into schools and speak to young men about sharing their problems, even if they are very personal. "I think we all know that men don't particularly tend to talk about their problems in the same way that girls do but I think circumcision is very much a taboo subject," she says. "Alex was reserved. He certainly wouldn't have said 'I've got a tight foreskin and it really hurts'. And he didn't. And I didn't know." Only a week after Alex died, a friend opened up to Lesley about his own circumcision. "He told me he wouldn't normally have mentioned it but he had a circumcision as an older man, 10 years ago, and he was in constant daily pain," says Lesley. "It just seems it's more common than you think."

Dr. Trevor Dorkin, urologist and member of the British Association of Urological Surgeons, warns his patients of the risks before he will perform circumcision surgery.

Mr Dorkin says serious problems following a circumcision are rare, but not unheard of. "You do hear of horror stories where a circumcision has been done poorly and there's damage done to the head of the penis itself," he says. Sometimes too much skin is taken and this can result in what's known as "burying" or shortening of the penis, where it gets pulled back into the body. "Surgeons at the end of the day are human and there is potential for human error and technical error during any operation," he says. "One of my mentors told me every case is a tricky case, that's got to be your approach to surgery. You never take anything for granted in surgery."

Circumcision always has risk, but it is especially great when performed upon an infant. Adult circumcision has real and lasting consequences, but when done to a fully informed (which Alex was not) consenting adult, it is not as life-threatening as infant circumcision.

There have been cases of children and men dying after being circumcised. Four-week-old Goodluck Caubergs bled to death after a nurse circumcised him at his home in Manchester, while one-month-old Angelo Ofori-Mintah bled to death after being circumcised. Since 1995 at least 1,100 boys have died in South Africa after ritual circumcisions. Some penises fall off after becoming infected and rotten, while some have to be amputated. In Canada, where Alex was living, newborn baby Ryan Heydari bled to death after being circumcised by a doctor in Ontario. Recently there have been reports of two babies dying within weeks of each other after home circumcisions in Italy, and a two-year-old boy died after being circumcised at a migrant centre in Italy.

Complications of infant circumcision, via Stanford University School of Medicine.
See Also: Death from Circumcision

"I'm not qualified to say that circumcision is always bad, because it isn't," says Lesley. "It certainly was in my son's case and I think we need more research. We need to look into the risks, what can really go wrong, and we need to be more aware of them." If circumcision is necessary, Mr Dorkin says it is important to tell patients about potential complications. "Particularly when you are doing the operation in a guy who is in his late teenage years or early adulthood, it's a very sensitive area and sexual function is important, so you have to explain the risks to them," he says.

As a child, Lesley says Alex was "gorgeous, easy going, and adoring of his younger brother, Thomas."

"Alex said he was not made aware of all the risks," says Lesley. "If he had, I feel sure he would not have had the surgery. "Alex wasn't alone. I now know he wasn't the only one that this has happened to. And that can't be right." The UK charity 15 Square, which tries to educate people about circumcision, says Alex is not the only man to have killed himself after being circumcised. "It happens more frequently than people realise," says chairman David Smith. There are no statistics on men who have killed themselves after being circumcised.

Alex died over a year ago but his story has not been told until now. An inquest into his death was held in the UK but it was not reported by the media. Lesley, who is normally private and reserved like her son, only agreed to share Alex's story because it was his dying wish. "If the following information can benefit anybody then it has served its purpose," he wrote. "I did not feel comfortable raising the issue when I had a choice, so if my story can raise awareness to break this taboo within society regarding men's health then I am happy for release of my words. "Alex said in his letter 'We stand on the shoulders of those who came before us'," says Lesley. "This is the last thing I'm doing for my precious son."

Alex asked his mother to share his story after he left this earth.

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If you were cut against your wishes at birth, or misled to believe the amputation of your prepuce would benefit you as an adult, there is hope through restoration, and support in many men's groups today. MenMatterToo.org/men

Related Resources:

NORM.org

Saving Our Sons Community 

RestoringForeskin.org

RestoringTally.com

SOS Men

The Intact Network

Restoration resources and reasons circumcised men are restoring today.
Informational cards for distribution at Etsy.
What was so difficult in keeping my son intact was not that my son would feel different in a locker room, but that I would feel different from him. I would then have to accept that I'm an amputee from the wars of a past generation. - father in "Circumcision: The Hidden Trauma"


Genital Integrity Awareness Week 2019




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Genital Integrity Awareness Week 2019 takes place March 28-April 3 and we need your help to make this year's Washington D.C. event a powerful one! As advocates travel to D.C. to participate, and floods of tourists the world over gather in D.C. for the height of the annual Cherry Blossom Festival, we strive to have intact materials on hand to reach a large number of people at our nation's capitol. These are items that parents and professionals, young and old, from all backgrounds and locations in life will want to take home with them for further review. Making this happen takes a significant amount of planning, organization, and resources on the part of many people, and it also takes financial support.


If you have never been to GIAW in D.C., here's a quick snapshot of a day's event:

We are standing with a dozen others in front of the U.S. Capitol, with giant pro-intact signs that draw people in, and can be seen from the streets all around the Capitol's bus route. A group of 200 senior high students come up, interested in what we have to share. Teachers shuffle students along for group photos, and we have mere minutes to plant seeds of information, respond to quick questions, and get interesting materials into hands of these future parents -- materials they eagerly take with them because their curiosity is spiked! Students grab things to take back on the bus (bracelets, cards, stickers, buttons), and look things up on their phone on their way to their next destination... This happens every single hour. Multiple times a day. Sun-up to sun-down. The need is great for GIAW. The impact is monumental. And we need your support in this important effort.

We will also be hosting two booths with free materials on the West Lawn:

The Men's Health table includes a variety of restoration devices for men to hold, learn about, and explore their options; information on adult sexual health, and the impact that genital cutting and restoration has on adult men and their partners.

The Baby Health table includes instruments used in infant circumcision, information on the purposes of the foreskin, intact care materials, and resources for parents to pass on to friends and their home care provider. This table also has items for our young visitors because families who stop to talk often have children who want things of their own (child sized bracelets, stickers, bubbles, coloring pages, flags, hats, etc.).


Business Sponsors: Please include a note with your GIAW contribution and your organization name/URL that you'd like to have linked (website, Facebook page, etc.). With your support of $100 or more, we invite you to provide an image/logo or coupon to be shared with the community at large. Email this to SavingSons@gmail.com, or we will create one for you. Your business or group will be featured at at the main GIAW website, at DrMomma.org, and at SavingSons.org, as well as with social media circles of Peaceful ParentingSaving Our Sons, The Intact NetworkGIAW, Intact State Chapters, and be permanently linked at Genital Integrity Awareness Week and found on Google.

GIAW Sponsors:  2019  |  2018  |  2017  |  2016  |  2015  |  2014  |  2013

Individuals: If you are sponsoring in honor of someone, we invite you to include a message with your gift and it will be included below. Individual sponsors will be listed by first name, last initial only for privacy.

Supporters: All supporting GIAW 2019 with your gift of any amount will receive commemorative vinyl decals with additional intact awareness stickers to plant in your area, if a mailing address is provided. For GIAW sponsors giving $25 or more, a registration pack (below) will be shipped, or can be picked up in DC.

Support on Etsy, or by PayPal, or by mail (below). Include a note with your address and selection choices, or email this to SavingSons@gmail.com

Registration and Thank You packs include:

• 5 GIAW 2019 / Child Abuse Prevention Month vinyl decal stickers (3x3 inches)
• 1 GIAW 2019 commemorative button
• 5 American Circumcision and 5 Elephant in the Hospital waterproof, vinyl stickers for seed-planting in your area
• 1 intact bracelet of your choice (view options)
• 1 intact pen of your choice (view options)
• Set of 25 vinyl stickers or professionally made cards of your choice (see sticker options here | see card options here
* If attending GIAW and picking up in DC: intact water bottle - or add $5 more to your donation to cover extra shipping and include a note that you'd like the water bottle 


On behalf of the next generation of babies to be born, and the adults they will become -
Thank you for supporting GIAW!




By Mail:
Saving Our Sons
P.O. Box 1302
Virginia Beach, VA 23451

PayPal Friends/Family To:
(no PayPal fee withdrawn)
SavingSons@gmail.com


GIAW 2019 Organization Sponsors
Please visit and support these intact-friendly businesses and groups!

NORM: National Organization of Restoring Men
NORM.org | Facebook | Twitter

Moon Bunny Arts
hand crafted custom designs for birth, babies, and beyond
Etsy | Facebook

Intact Virginia
Public Chapter | Group for Virginia Residents

Intact New Hampshire
Public Chapter | Group for New Hampshire Residents

Daniel A. of the Intact Muslim Network
Public Chapter | Related Materials


Peaceful Parenting Tennessee
If you're in the state of Tennessee, join us!


Individual GIAW 2019 Supporters
Thank you greatly for your generosity and support!

★ Kirk C.
A very special thank you to Kirk for sponsoring 50% of all GIAW 2019 expenses!

★ Michael M., Intact Pride

★ Daniel A., Intact Muslim Network

★ Christina H., Intact Virginia

★ Michelle P.

★ Robert B.

★ Deborah S.

★ Joe P.

★ Frederick F.

★ Elana J., Intact Jewish Network

★ Karen H.

★ Wendy B.

★ Sean B.

★ Marc D. 

★ Elizabeth M. 

★ Danelle D.
"In honor of my healthy, happy, whole children,
and the future men we will save who will be 'born perfect' as babies this year!"

★ David Wilson, GIAW Founder

★ Ryan L.

Brittany W.
"#SaveAllTheBabies!! πŸ™πŸ‘ΆπŸΌπŸ™πŸ‘ΆπŸΌπŸ™"

★ Justin L.

★ Russell S.
"I hope to one day see a world where we no longer suffer under genital mutilation. I can't afford much, as I am fighting my own battles, but I hope this helps bring us closer to a pain free future. Free from depression, resentment, suicidal thoughts, and shame. Keep fighting the good fight, for those of us who can't."

★ Nancy J.

★ Jennifer R.

★ Julie V.

Happily Nursing!

★ Amanda A.

★ Jill K.

★ Heidi B.

★ Dolores S.

★ Luke O.

★ Lindsey J.

★ Jenifer M.
"Thank you all for working so hard for this important cause!"

★ Brittany C.

★ David B.

★ Lauren W.

★ Faith R.

* Sponsors of the Silent Survivors Stand *
(circumstraints we're adding this year)

★ Roger D.
A big thank you to Roger for donating the funds needed to add 2 additional (used) circumstraints to the Silent Survivors Stand (to be used at expos across the nation throughout the rest of the year as well)!

★ Robert J.
A very special Thank You to Robert for donating funds needed for one full (used) circumstraint!

★ Kirk C.
Sincere Thank You to Kirk for donating funds needed for one full (used) circumstraint!

★ Christina H.

★ Michelle P.

★ Adrienne C.

★ Charles W.

★ Noelle L., Intact Tennessee / Intact Tennessee group for those in-state

 ★ Gini M., Intact Nebraska / Intact Nebraska group for those in-state

★ Amber C., Intact Houston / Intact Texas group for those in-state

★ Gingi Freeman Photography in Visalia, CA: GingiFreemanPhotography.com

★ Graham R.

 ★ Eli S.

* Sponsors of Intact-Info Flags *

THURSDAY (GIAW Kick-off:
πŸ‡ΊπŸ‡Έ Amber A. - Thursday AM Flags
 πŸ‡ΊπŸ‡Έ Rebecca W. - portion of Thursday PM Flags
πŸ‡ΊπŸ‡Έ Andrea A. - portion of Thursday PM Flags

 FRIDAY:
πŸ‡ΊπŸ‡Έ Tara D. - Friday AM Flags
πŸ‡ΊπŸ‡Έ Angela B. - Friday PM Flags

 SATURDAY (Capitol & White House):
πŸ‡ΊπŸ‡Έ Joe P. - all Saturday's Flags

 GIAW MARCH U.S. Capitol -- White House:
πŸ‡ΊπŸ‡Έ Elizabeth L. - all Flags for Marching

 SUNDAY (and the GA Clothesline event):
πŸ‡ΊπŸ‡Έ Rebecca W. - all Sunday's Flags

 MONDAY (and the Silent Survivors Stand):
πŸ‡ΊπŸ‡Έ Janet M. - all Monday's Flags

 TUESDAY (and 'Kids Day'):
πŸ‡ΊπŸ‡Έ Kirk C. - all Tuesday's Flags

 WEDNESDAY (GIAW 2019 Final Day):
πŸ‡ΊπŸ‡Έ Kirk C. - All Wednesday's Flags

 FLAG STICKER SPONSORS
(3,000 vinyl waterproof stickers, 2 per flag) 
πŸ‡ΊπŸ‡Έ Christina H. - portion of Flag Vinyl Stickers
πŸ‡ΊπŸ‡Έ Ryan L. - portion of Flag Vinyl Stickers
πŸ‡ΊπŸ‡Έ  Chad R. - remaining need for Flag Vinyl Stickers
"In support of friend, Shane Brewster."



* KIDS' SIGNS! * 
Unless we reach full funding, we cannot purchase new kids signs this year. If your children borrow a sign at GIAW for the march, PLEASE return it to David's wagon so that they can be used through the rest of the GIAW week, and at rallies in the future. If you'd like to keep the sign you carry, replacements are $20 that can be given to David Wilson, Danelle Day, Karen Glennon, Christina Heydecke, Nick Baade, or Brian Brown. Thank you!


Allocation of GIAW 2019 Funds
(please help us reach our needed goal to stock GIAW 2019!) 

$600 new giant banners for self-standing on each side of the Capitol West Wall, and signage that will continue to be used throughout the year for rallies, expos, events, and future GIAW dates. We especially need 2 new giant vinyl banners with positive, pro-intact messages; we need to replace PVC frames for most of the banners at GIAW this year (approximately $20 per banner to build), and we need a few new signs appropriate for children. Kids love to participate alongside their parents and need fun, age-fitting signs. 

$700 professionally printed materials to give away at GIAW 2019. This week-long event functions as an expo, with booths of items that are entirely free for the public, meeting with people across the West Lawn from sun-up to sun-down each day for 7 days. Having enough well respected, quality literature on hand is crucial to GIAW's success. 

$400 flags for passing out each day during GIAW, as well as along the march route, and giving away at the White House. Each flag will have intact information attached to it on both sides. Flags are *very* popular in DC, at the Capitol, and White House, and frequently chaperone groups who will not allow students to take other materials from GIAW leaders will allow them to accept and take home flags, a hat, or bracelet (getting intact material into their hands). It is important to have enough flags (with stickers attached to each one) for every day during GIAW.

$650 bracelets, buttons, water bottles, and baseball caps to give away throughout the week. These items are key in that they are the most requested items, especially by students - tomorrow's parents. We need materials that young people desire to hold onto, take home with them, and spark interest enough to check out the websites/share with friends. Awareness is key! 

$50 two full-color, full-page books of intact celebrities - one for the men's health booth, and one for the front West Wall of the Capitol where the most conversations take place.

$500 to add additional (used/not supporting the manufacture) circumstraints to the silent men's demonstration at the Capitol West Wall (see photo example below)

$100 demonstration glans/foreskin models (in multiple skin shades) to highlight the normal adhesion of the foreskin to the glans/shaft in infancy, and the probing, severing, and cutting that must take place for infant circumcision to be achieved. These models are highly useful in one-on-one or small group education at expo booths.

If GIAW funds are raised beyond those needed, we will have intact material packs available to go home with people (U.S. advocates, leaders, teachers, and international educators who visit the Capitol during GIAW often ask for packets they can take back home with them to share).  





Lanyard Options to Select From:
• Royal Blue: Genital Autonomy is a Human Right
• Violet: All Babies are Born Perfect
• Hot Pink: Foreskin is Fun & Functional
• Deep Aqua Blue: Boys are Not Born Broken

GIAW 2019 Buttons





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