★ Genital Integrity Awareness Week 2017 ★


Genital Integrity Awareness Week 2017 takes place March 27-April 2 this year and we need YOUR help to make this year's 7-day event power-packed! As advocates travel to D.C. to participate, and floods of tourists the world over gather in Washington D.C. for the height of the annual Cherry Blossom Festival, it is important that everyone in attendance has easy to access materials on hand. Items that parents and professionals, young and old, from all backgrounds and locations in life will want to take home with them for further review. Making this happen takes a significant amount of planning and organization on the part of many people, and it also takes financial support.

If you have never been to GIAW in D.C., here's a quick snapshot of a day's event:

You are standing with half a dozen others in front of the U.S. Capitol, and a group of 200 senior high students come up, interested in what you have to share. Teachers shuffle students along for group photos in front of the Capitol, and we have mere minutes to plant seeds of information and get interesting materials into hands of these future parents. Provided they are items students *want* to take home with them, they grab things to take back on the bus, and look up on their phone they are on their way... This happens every single hour. Multiple times an hour. Sun-up to sun-down. The need is great. The impact is monumental. And we need your support in this important effort.

We will also be hosting two booths with free materials on the West Lawn:

The Men's Health table, that includes a variety of restoration devices for men to hold, learn about and explore their options, information on adult sexual health, and the impact that genital cutting and restoration has on adult men and their partners.

The Baby Health table, which includes instruments used in infant circumcision, information on the purposes of the foreskin, intact care materials, and resources for parents to pass on to friends and their home care provider.


Business Sponsors: Please include a note with your GIAW contribution of $75 or more. Include your organization name/URL. If you'd like an image, logo, or coupon code shared with advocates, email this to SavingSons@gmail.com Your business will be featured below, as well as on the front page of DrMomma.org (with over 500,000 readers) for the month of March, be shared with the Saving Our Sons and GIAW social media circles, and be permanently hyperlinked at Genital Integrity Awareness Week.

Past Business Sponsors: 2016 ||  2015  ||  2014  ||  2013  ||

Individuals: If you are sponsoring in honor of someone, we invite you to include a note with your gift of any amount. Individual sponsors will be listed by first name, last initial only for privacy.

Attendees & Supporters: All who register as an attendee or supporter will receive a complete GIAW Registration Pack. If you will pick your pack up in DC during GIAW, please register as an Attendee. You will receive a name tag and badge in your registration pack on the West Lawn of the U.S. Capitol. If you need your pack mailed (will not be in DC), register as a Supporter and double check that your mailing address is correct, or email your address to SavingSons@gmail.com  You can select any of the cards or stickers we have available for your pack. If you do not see those you'd like in the options below, email your selection as well. All can be viewed on Etsy




Attendee Registration / Support: Will Pick Up in D.C.
Water Bottle?
Lanyard Color / Phrase
Set of 100 Cards
Set of 100 Stickers:
#i2 Bracelet Choice *



GIAW Sponsor 
(I'm unable to attend in D.C. this year, but happy to support!)
Water Bottle?
Lanyard Color / Phrase
Set of 100 Cards
Set of 100 Stickers:
#i2 Bracelet Choice *


GIAW Extra Add-On Items:
For extra cards (style choice):
For extra stickers (style choice):
Extra #i2 Bracelet Choice:

On behalf of the next generation of babies to be born, and the adults they will become -
Thank you for supporting GIAW!


By Mail To:

Saving Our Sons
P.O. Box 1302
Virginia Beach, VA 23451

GIAW Business Sponsors
Please visit and support these intact-friendly businesses & groups!

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GIAW Individual Sponsors

✭ Danelle F.

✭ John B.



Select BLUE or PURPLE lanyard with your support.
Blue reads "Genital Autonomy is a Human Right"
Purple reads "ALL Babies are Born Perfect"

Commemorative 2017 GIAW Button will be given to all supporters.
This year, we celebrate 20 years of the FGM Bill in action, and strive to see this protection for all babies and children, regardless of sex.

Informative stickers included in your registration or support pack.


Should I Circumcise? The Pros and Cons of Infant Circumcision



New to the subject of infant circumcision and the benefits of the prepuce (foreskin)? The following are resources many families have found useful when looking at the subject for the first time. They are meant to be a starting point into deeper investigation and further research that is widely available today. If you only have a short period of time to spend on this topic, a blue star marks films with physicians in practice today, and materials based on peer-reviewed research.

Functions of the Foreskin: Drmomma.org/2009/09/functions-of-foreskin-purposes-of.html

Intact vs. Circumcised: A Significant Difference in the Adult Penis: Drmomma.org/2011/08/intact-or-circumcised-significant.html 

Why did circumcision start as we now know it in the U.S.? Hear from some original doctors on the matter: Savingsons.org/2012/07/circumcision-to-reduce-mens-sexual.html

Faith Considerations on Circumcision (resources by/for Jews, Christians, and Muslims): Drmomma.org/2011/01/faith-considerations-on-circumcision.html

Peer reviewed research (studies published in medical journals): Drmomma.org/2007/01/circumcision-studies.html

Are there medical benefits to circumcision? Read national medical statements from around the world: Drmomma.org/2014/08/medical-organization-position.html

Physicians' thoughts within the medical field today: FB.com/IntactCare

Well researched books written on the subject: http://astore.amazon.com/savingsons.org-20

Dr. Ryan McAllister's Georgetown University video lecture, Elephant in the Hospital (also included on DVD in the info pack below): http://vimeo.com/26130057

Dr. Christopher Guest's video, Circumcision: The Whole Story: http://youtu.be/SeAXantm4tE

Whose Body, Whose Rights? Award-winning circumcision documentary: SavingSons.org/2017/01/whose-body-whose-rights-circumcision.html

The Real Reason You're Circumcised from College Humor: Collegehumor.com/video/6966989/the-real-reason-youre-circumcised

Penn & Teller: Bullsh*t Circumcision Episode: SavingSons.org/2013/03/happy-birthday-penn-jillette.html

Intact Care: Drmomma.org/2009/06/how-to-care-for-intact-penis-protect.html
Circumcision Care: Nocirc.org/publish/pamphlet5.html

The two most common forms of circumcision in North American today: 

Gomco: Savingsons.org/2011/01/neonatal-circumcision-video-for.html

Plastibell: Drmomma.org/2009/08/plastibell-infant-circumcision.html [Note that the Plastibell is the type of circumcision most often referred to as a 'no-cutting' or 'no-blood' method.]

Outcome Statistics (Circumcised vs. Intact): Drmomma.org/2010/01/cut-vs-intact-outcome-statistics.html

Men speak: https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.487363627949430.115346.166998263319303

Over 250,000 men are restoring some of what was lost to circumcision. It improves sex in a wide variety of ways. Google 'foreskin restoration' and check out any of these resources: Savingsons.org/2009/10/foreskin-restoration.html

8 articles published at Psychology Today: Savingsons.org/2011/10/psychology-today-circumcision-series.html

For those with older sons who were circumcised: 
Public Page: FB.com/FutureSons 
Discussion Group: FB.com/groups/FutureSons
Related items from others with circumcised sons: Drmomma.org/2010/05/i-circumcised-my-son-healing-from.html 

What does this have to do with WOMEN? 
SexAsNatureIntendedIt.com
Book by same title: http://astore.amazon.com/savingsons.org-20

How Male Circumcision Impacts Your Love Life: Drmomma.org/2009/10/how-male-circumcision-impacts-your-love.html

Women's Health and Male Circumcision Resource List: Drmomma.org/2009/07/how-male-circumcision-impacts-women.html

HIV/AIDS and the African Trials: AIDSCirc.org and the HIV resource page: Drmomma.org/2014/01/hiv-aids-circumcision-resources.html

50 Reasons to Leave it Alone: Drmomma.org/2010/11/50-reasons-to-leave-it-alone.html 

The Info Pack (includes a DVD with several videos and full length articles); the smaller Expecting Pack; Postcards for friends; or have a professional exchange online correspondence: Savingsons.org/p/info-pack.html

Informational items (cards, stickers, bracelets, etc.): Savingsons.org/p/info-cards.html or at Etsy: Etsy.com/shop/SavingOurSons

Questions? 
Please feel free to email SavingSons@gmail.com at any time. Several clinicians volunteer time to field questions, and if we're not able to answer, we'll seek out a place to go for further information.

If you find these resources to be of use, please help support Saving Our Sons and work we do. We continue solely by volunteers' time and generosity. See current needs at: Savingsons.org/p/sponsor-son-waiting-list.html or give directly: https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=VQSSUQFGLFZXQ







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Intact Care and Circumcision Info Pack



In order to make a fully informed decision, having easy access to valid, research-based information is key. Working hand in hand with clinicians who volunteer with Saving Our Sons, we deliver accurate prepuce ('foreskin'), intact care, and circumcision information to any expecting parent or clients of intact conscious practitioners. There are 7 options below for getting material to your expecting friends and family members.

The Full Info Pack


The full SOS info pack includes:  
  • 80 pages of articles and research. This material broaches a wide range of sub-categories within intact literature, and responds to all major myths regarding the prepuce, intact care, and circumcision today. 
  • Complimentary videos on DVD full of helpful, research-based information on the prepuce, its care, and the circumcision decision parents in the U.S. and Canada are allowed to make today.
  • A proper intact care card and sticker for use at a physician's office, daycare, nursery or with a babysitter. We are happy to send along additional intact care cards or stickers at your request. These are 2-sided, full color, glossy, and made with heavy card stock so they can be reused (or laminated and kept handy with your baby's diaper bag). 
  • A National Medical Organizations Statements on Circumcision chart that highlights positions on infant circumcision from a variety of respected groups around the world including those in the U.S., Canada, U.K., Australia, Finland, India and others. 
  • A Keeping Future Sons Intact card especially for parents who may already have a son who was circumcised. This does not mean future sons cannot remain intact. Many families are raising both circumcised and intact sons, and we hope to support parents in this change of heart. 
  • A "Did You Know?" card full of quick facts about the prepuce, intact care, and circumcision in the U.S. and Canada. 
  • A "Babyface" postcard that contains quick facts on the prepuce, intact care, and circumcision, as well as a full list of websites by subject for doing additional research on the topics of circumcision, intact care, and restoration. 
  • An "Expecting a Boy?" postcard that contains quick go-to resources on the front; circumcision and intact care points on the back.
  • A "Trust His Body" postcard that serves as an encouragement to parents of the perfection with which their son arrives. The back has the functions of the foreskin and intact care information.
  • An "Intact vs. Circumcised Outcome Statistics" postcard that highlights the difference between an intact and circumcised newborn baby; shows a photo of what a circumcised infant looks like both from Plastibell and Gomco clamp, and lists statistics and risk factors both for keeping babies intact, and circumcising.
  • An "Intact vs. Circumcised Adult" postcard that specifies the way the glans must change from being an internal to external organ when circumcision is carried out. This card is also includes restoration information for men who may want to look further into this option. 
  • A "Lost/Found" card that has quick-facts on the functions of the foreskin on one side (things that are lost to circumcision) and the things found with restoration on the back. This card is especially for fathers who may feel their son should 'match' them.
  • A "Restoration" card that has go-to resources for men who may have been circumcised at birth, as well as the large variety of restoration devices available to men today. 
  • A "Breastfeeding/Circumcision" info card that points out the many ways that circumcision can hamper a successful breastfeeding relationship. 
  • A "Congratulations!" card with a wide variety of discussion groups on various topics parents may be interested in (everything from pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding, babywearing, cloth diapering, gentle discipline, raising girls or boys, etc.). 
  • An "Elephant in the Hospital" sticker. Dr. McAllister's entire Georgetown University lecture is included on the DVD with this pack; the sticker is added as an extra encouragement to spark interest and move parents to check things out. 
  • [Optional] Added faith-based information that is relevant to families who are devoutly Jewish, Christian, Muslim, Mormon, or Catholic. Please include a note when ordering or email SavingSons@gmail.com for faith-based items to be added. 
  • [Optional] An "HIV/AIDS and Circumcision" card stressing facts that relate to the 2006 HIV trials in Africa, and the myths that have surfaced from those trials in U.S. media. 
  • Calmoseptine samples: This ointment is the top recommended for use on developing skin. It does not interfere with a baby's natural pH or healthy (protective) microflora, and is perfect for use on babies during diaper days, when irritation or redness is common. It is the most recommended cream by pediatricians volunteering their time with Saving Our Sons, and is the cream we use when leading intact care classes. Calmoseptine can be purchased at most pharmacies around the world, or on Amazon
  • Contact information for Saving Our Sons and The INTACT Network volunteers, and follow-up with families who may have additional questions, or wish to talk with an intact friendly physician, educator, or other parents in their local area.
Each of the items in the SOS info pack has been specially selected by a board of individuals who have served in the professional fields of pediatrics, human sexuality, development, birth and education over the past 35 years. Our pack serves to empower parents in making a fully informed decision for their son before birth, and equipping parents with necessary resources for proper intact care after birth. The SOS info pack is perfect to share with friends, family and parents (or parents-to-be), as well as for birth and baby educators, midwives, doulas, and medical professionals to lend to expecting clients.

Information packs are $16 total (no profit is made on these items). $12 goes to printing, materials, and supplies; $4 to ship (U.S.), $7 (Canada), $8 shipping to other international locations by weight. If you donate more than $16, the remainder will go to help other families.

Be certain that your name and mailing address are correct when requesting via PayPal, or email SavingSons@gmail.com separately with mailing information.

If you are able to sponsor an info pack for another family, or help us attend the next maternity expo, please visit the sponsor page.

REQUEST FULL PACK HERE

By Mail:

 Saving Our Sons
P.O. Box 1302
Virginia Beach, VA 23451
*include email so we can send shipping notice

Credit Card by Email:
SavingSons@gmail.com

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Info Pack Replacement Sets
(for those lending the info pack to clients)


Especially for Educators & Birth Practitioners
Info Pack Replacement Sets
NOTE: Info packs have been updated. New items will be included in the replacement sets.
View each closely on the info cards page.
*International postage more by weight

To U.S. Addresses:
4 Sets = $8 (approximately 60-70 card/postcards total)
6 Sets = $11 (approximately 90-110 cards/postcards total)
10 Sets = $20 (approximately 150-170 cards/postcards total)
20 Sets = $40 (approximately 200-240 cards/postcards total)
REQUEST HERE

Credit card by email: SavingSons@gmail.com

Check by Mail:
Saving Our Sons
PO Box 1302
Virginia Beach, VA 23451

Expecting? Combo Pack


The Expecting? combo packet of informational items is significantly smaller than the full circumcision info pack (no DVDs or full articles), but is perfect for sending to any and all expecting friends/family. Materials are professionally made and serve to plant seeds of information on each of the following topics: circumcision, intact care, breastfeeding, babywearing and healthy baby sleep (i.e. no 'cry it out'). These items are mailed directly from Peaceful Parenting and include a thorough amount of material on circumcision and intact care, while at the same time covering other parenting topics that will impact a baby's life. 'Keeping future sons intact' themed info is included to ensure those who may already have circumcised boys find they have community and can be empowered to make a different decision the next time around. The Expecting? pack can be mailed anonymously - simply include an individual's name and address for shipping, or email SavingSons@gmail.com with this information. Indicate if you would like additional Christian, Jewish, Muslim, Mormon or Catholic items added to the pack.
$5 (materials/postage)

Via email for credit card to SavingSons@gmail.com

By Mail: 
Saving Our Sons
PO Box 1302
Virginia Beach, VA 23451

Don't Retract Info Packs

For clinicians may be requested here: SavingSons.org/2015/07/retracting-clinician-information-pack.html or by clicking the Don't Retract Pack tab at the top of this website.

Quick Request
($4 to cover materials/postage)
Include your physician's name/mailing address

Breastfeeding Mom's Pack


The Breastfeeding Mom's Info Pack was created to send to an expecting mother who plans to nurse her baby, in situations where you'd like to give her something to meet her needs, plant seeds of intact info, and encourage her in the gentle care of her baby on the way. 

These packs include:
  • 1 'peace love momma milk' bracelet (small or standard size)
  • 5 lanolin samples
  • $5 in Lansinoh coupons
  • 1 Calmoseptine sample
  • 1 'wean me gently' poem and natural weaning facts postcard
  • 2 'thank you for breastfeeding' cards
  • 1 Latch-On card
  • 1 'new parent?' card that specifically has links for those expecting boys
  • 1 feeding-on-cue (no 'cry it out') card
  • 1 breastfeeding/circumcision informational card
  • 1 breastfeeding mini journal, 'how big is a baby's stomach' chart, and helpful tips booklet
  • 1 Expecting a Boy? postcard with quick go-to links on the front and intact/circumcision care on the back
The bracelets are dearly loved by nursing moms everywhere and come in regular adult size, or small size for those with smaller wrists. The lanolin samples and coupons are heartily used and appreciated by new nursing moms. The poem is a favorite (read here) and the informational cards have been useful in leading mothers to more information for many years - saving countless babies along the way. You can view all cards in detail here. Materials/postage: $8


(for narrow/small wrists)

Wondering what breastfeeding has to do with circumcision? View this article with statements from LLLI: http://www.drmomma.org/2012/06/womanly-art-of-breastfeeding.html

Church Blessing Pack
The Church Blessing Pack was created to have items for expecting, new, and nursing mothers in Christian churches. These items are designed to steer people back to intact information, in a way that is welcomed by most churches. The nursing items can be left in your church nursing room, the calmoseptine samples and 'Congratulations' cards can be left by changing tables. Some churches have business card sharing areas for congregation members, that the 'Congratulations' cards are perfect for. The Whole Christian cards and stickers may or may not fit with your church, depending on size and how welcoming it is of information. Some members may be able to plant things anonymously, while others would be known, or need to get permission to share. If these do not work with your church, 'carding' with them at a local Christian bookstore, the Christian books section at Barnes & Noble, or at Target is another great idea.

Church Blessing Pack ($6) includes:
• 10 Lanolin samples
• 10 coupons for $1 off Lansinoh
• 5 Latch on cards
• 15 Congratulations cards
• 5 Whole Christian cards
• 10 Whole Christian stickers
• 8 Calmoseptine packets (good for 2-3 diaper changes each) with stickers
• 2 extra postcards (to give to an expecting friend, or post around town)

Purchase ($6 per pack)

Church Blessing Mini ($4) includes: 
• 5 Lanolin samples
• 5 coupons for $1 off Lansinoh
• 4 Calmoseptine packets (good for 2-3 diaper changes each) with stickers
• 15 Congratulations cards
• 2 extra postcards (to give to an expecting friend, or post around town)

Purchase ($4 per pack)

Postcard by Mail

The Expecting a Boy? postcard (with care information on the reverse) and Babyface postcard (with quick facts and resources on the reverse) are sent in a blue envelope to your expecting friend/family member. Your friend will have our contact information for further questions/dialog, but this will be anonymous of who requested (unless you wish to be named, or include a note with the postcards). 

 
Be certain your friend's name/address is included in a note, or email SavingSons@gmail.com with this information.
$1+ donation to help cover postage.

Credit card by email: SavingSons@gmail.com 

By Mail:
Saving Our Sons
PO Box 1302
Virginia Beach, VA 23451

Email or Facebook

Information is almost always best received by professional materials in-hands. This sparks further curiosity in a way that leads people to investigate more deeply. The next best thing if you cannot get materials into someone's hands is to email or message them yourself with 1-2 quality links that lead to more information. The resource page at SOS is an effective starting point that has saved many babies: SavingSons.org/2014/12/should-i-circumcise-pros-and-cons-of.html It is also the landing page if you only share the SOS website (SavingSons.org). If you're unable or do not wish to email or message on Facebook yourself, email SavingSons@gmail.com and we will respectfully message your friend, anonymous of who requested.

We send one copy of the Expecting a Boy? postcard via email (pictured above), as well as 1-3 quality links that will lead the reader to further information, and are specific to that individual's family/faith/location. Saving Our Sons messages are professional, courteous, and we will get information to your friend/family member and answer any corresponding questions. We will not pester, harass or otherwise bombard your friend. 

Please include the following information when requesting that items be emailed/messaged: 
  • Name
  • Email or Facebook URL
  • Faith-based information (is this person Christian, Jewish, Muslim, Catholic, Mormon, etc.?)
  • Past child information (does this person already have a son who was circumcised?)
  • State or country that this individual lives in (so that we can connect them with a local leader/group for further dialog and connection if they wish) 



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Whose Body, Whose Rights? Circumcision Documentary



Whose Body, Whose Rights? Examining the Ethics and Human Rights Issue of Infant Male Circumcision is an award-winning documentary, as seen on PBS, and now available for viewing in full online. Recipient of the Creative Excellence award at the 1996 U.S. International Film and Video Festival, Honorable Mention at the 1996 Philadelphia Film Festival, and Best of Festival at the First Annual Stark Video and Film Festival (1997), this film may be purchased on DVD here.

This program was dedicated in 1995 to the American pioneers who worked to protect boys and girls from genital mutilation: Joseph Lewis, Marilyn Milos, Rosemary Romberg, and Edward Wallerstein.

Copyright © 1995, Dillonwood Productions, 56 minutes, color. Contact Producer: CircHarmSurvey@gmail.com






A note to physicians:


Top 10 Most Read of 2016


We're saying so-long to 2016, and looking ahead with positive aspirations for a fresh, new 2017!

In case you are new to Saving Our Sons, or missed one of these much-appreciated items along the way, the following articles are the 10 most read at SavingSons.org this past year. It is our hope that you find something empowering or useful while you're here at SOS.


















A resource list for parents new to the topic


And the #1 most read item at Saving Our Sons this year is a piece put together by our friend and fellow baby-saver, the late Jonathon Conte. His passing in May 2016 was heartbreaking for so many people whose lives he touched, yet his influence and impact lives on. Note that U.S. hospitals are not required to keep data on newborn genital cutting, and this makes current year-to-year rates difficult to obtain.



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Connect locally and join in discussions: 



Circumcision Regret: The Hardest Conversation With My Son

By Alex Coper © 2016



Tonight I had the hardest conversation ever.

My boys, ages 7 and 1, took a bath together (rare), and my oldest son told me that my toddler may have a rash because the end of his penis was pink (a normal shade, I wasn't concerned). He then asked me why his brother's penis 'looked different' from his.

I grimaced, but told him, "When you were a baby, Mommy and Daddy didn't know any better, and the doctor told us it was needed, so we got you circumcised, and I'm very sorry."

He asked what that was, and (not having time to pre-plan my response), I told him that there was 'extra skin' that was cut off his body. He asked why my toddler has this still, and I replied, "Because we found out it is better if you do have it. But it's okay now that you don't -- your penis is fine." [I panicked in this moment because I didn't want my son to think there is something wrong with him.]

He looked at my toddler's penis and said slowly, "That must have hurt..."

I replied, "It did, but the doctor told Mommy and Daddy that it didn't, and we didn't find out until later that he lied to us."

My son thought for a moment, "Daddy has the skin."

"I know," I said. [My husband was circumcised at birth, but has restored.]

"So why did you let the doctor cut mine?"

"I don't know son, we didn't research it, so I didn't know not to. We're very sorry. Now Mommy researches EVERYTHING."

"Did I cry?"

"Probably. I wasn't there, and neither was Daddy. They wouldn't let us see you."

"Did I bleed?"

"Yes..."

I let him think on it, and I could tell he was getting angry. (😢) Very angry.

"Momma, this is my penis. Why did you let them cut me?"

I broke down crying and just apologized over and over...

My son then bent down and gave me a hug, and said, "It's okay Momma. I know you and Daddy didn't know, but I hate that doctor. I want to punch him." I told him that honestly the doctor probably didn't know any better either, but now doctors are learning too. He asked if others had theirs cut, and I told him that many boys do -- as far as I know all of his friends were, because their parents didn't know any better either.

Then he asked if his baby cousin would be, and I said probably. "Mommy tried to talk with them, but they wouldn't listen."

Then it was my son who started crying and saying he wishes they would listen to me...

After I stopped us both (I started crying again too) he asked me if he could see my toddler's 'extra skin.' I told him no - that would pull and hurt him, and that he will pull it on his own when he's old enough. "We don't touch it except to wipe the outside like a finger when he needs it."

He asked what God said, and I told him, "God said to leave babies perfect, but Mommy hadn't read that part of the Bible when you were born." (Easiest way to explain that, I figured.) He asked if doctors had read those things, and I told him that I didn't know if his doctor had or not, but I would assume not.

Then he asked if he could see the 'circus-in-him' (circumcision). I very hesitantly said yes, there are videos of it being done to others... And he said he wanted to see.

So while he was getting ready for bed I dried off my toddler and found an educational video of how the procedure is performed online, and we watched it together.

He said, "It looks painful, but the baby didn't cry." I told him that it was just a demonstration, that I didn't want to hear a baby cry, and didn't think he should either. He said okay -- he just wanted to know how much it hurt him.

I asked him if he remembered when he slammed his fingers in the door (it took off skin), and he said yes. I told him that it hurt worse than that. He got quiet again, and then said he would never 'circus-in-him' his babies. GOOD, I said.

I apologized again, and we hugged. Later on he asked me if girls were cut, and I said no, and he concluded with, "That's not fair that they cut boys but not girls..." I said that's true -- and it is "one reason Mommy and so many others are telling people to not cut anyone." He said okay, and has not spoken about it again.

I wanted to share this experience from our day so that regret parents like me would know what I personally said when the topic came up with my older child, and some of the things he asked of me, to give a better idea of what may also come up in your family. Hopefully this will help in planning what you'd like to say to your own son, so you are more prepared than I was.


Read more from parents raising both intact and circumcised sons at: 
DrMomma.org/2010/05/i-circumcised-my-son-healing-from.html

Explore further information on the topic of genital autonomy and benefits of keeping your son intact:
SavingSons.org/2014/12/should-i-circumcise-pros-and-cons-of.html


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Happy Holidays! #i2


☃ Since Saving Our Sons began in 2008, our efforts have been led by a handful of volunteers and educators striving to empower parents, and make life better for babies (and the children and men they become). While the online SOS community has grown to 83,000+, and includes a wide and diverse number of people, there is still just a small number handling everything here at 'home base' -- and keeping the underlying foundation of SOS a positive, proactive and pro-intact one. It is testimony of the impact and ripple effect that merely a few can have with steadfast devotion, healthy action, and a pouring of hearts and personal resources into the cause.  

With this in mind, we *love* hearing from families who have found SOS over the years and had their lives positively impacted in one way or another. It is a blessing to correspond with you, to work in unison together in this global effort, as well as at the grassroots level, and we always look forward to hearing from you.

If you are sending greetings at this time of year, we would love to hear from you. ❤

Write if you wish to:

Saving Our Sons
P.O. Box 1302
Virginia Beach, VA 23451 

We will write back. :)

❄ Have a blessed holiday season. ❄

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