Should I Circumcise? The Pros and Cons of Infant Circumcision



New to the subject of infant circumcision and the benefits of the prepuce (foreskin)? The following are resources many families have found useful when looking at the subject for the first time. They are meant to be a starting point into deeper investigation and further research available today.

Functions of the Foreskin: Drmomma.org/2009/09/functions-of-foreskin-purposes-of.html

Intact vs. Circumcised: A Significant Difference in the Adult Penis: Drmomma.org/2011/08/intact-or-circumcised-significant.html 

Why did circumcision start as we now know it in the U.S.? Hear from some original doctors on the matter: Savingsons.org/2012/07/circumcision-to-reduce-mens-sexual.html

Faith Considerations on Circumcision (if this matters to an individual - resources by/for Jews, Christians, and Muslims): Drmomma.org/2011/01/faith-considerations-on-circumcision.html

Peer reviewed research (studies published in medical journals): Drmomma.org/2007/01/circumcision-studies.html

Are there medical benefits to circumcision? Read national medical statements from around the world: Drmomma.org/2014/08/medical-organization-position.html

Physicians' thoughts within the medical field today: FB.com/IntactCare

Well researched books written on the subject: http://astore.amazon.com/savingsons.org-20

Dr. Ryan McAllister's Georgetown video lecture, Elephant in the Hospital (also included on DVD in the info pack below): http://vimeo.com/26130057

Dr. Christopher Guest's video, Circumcision: The Whole Story: http://youtu.be/SeAXantm4tE

Intact Care: Drmomma.org/2009/06/how-to-care-for-intact-penis-protect.html
Circumcision Care: Nocirc.org/publish/pamphlet5.html

The two most common forms of circumcision in North American today: 

Gomco: Savingsons.org/2011/01/neonatal-circumcision-video-for.html

Plastibell: Drmomma.org/2009/08/plastibell-infant-circumcision.html [Note that the Plastibell is the type of circumcision most often referred to as a 'no-cutting' or 'no-blood' method.]

Outcome Statistics: Circumcised and Intact: Drmomma.org/2010/01/cut-vs-intact-outcome-statistics.html

Men speak on the subject: https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.487363627949430.115346.166998263319303

Over 250,000 men are restoring some of what was lost to circumcision. It improves sex in a wide variety of ways. Google 'foreskin restoration' and check out any of these resources: Savingsons.org/2009/10/foreskin-restoration.html

The Real Reason You're Circumcised from College Humor: Collegehumor.com/video/6966989/the-real-reason-youre-circumcised

8 articles published at Psychology Today: Savingsons.org/2011/10/psychology-today-circumcision-series.html

For those with older sons who were circumcised: 
Public Page: FB.com/FutureSons 
Private Discussion Group: FB.com/groups/FutureSons
Related items from others with circumcised sons: Drmomma.org/2010/05/i-circumcised-my-son-healing-from.html 

What does this have to do with WOMEN? 
SexAsNatureIntendedIt.com
Book by same title: http://astore.amazon.com/savingsons.org-20

How Male Circumcision Impacts Your Love Life: Drmomma.org/2009/10/how-male-circumcision-impacts-your-love.html

Women's Health and Male Circumcision Resource List: Drmomma.org/2009/07/how-male-circumcision-impacts-women.html

HIV/AIDS and the African Trials: AIDSCirc.org and the HIV resource page: Drmomma.org/2014/01/hiv-aids-circumcision-resources.html

50 Reasons to Leave it Alone: Drmomma.org/2010/11/50-reasons-to-leave-it-alone.html 

The Info Pack (includes a DVD with several videos and 80 pages of materials) or "Expecting?" New parent packets (materials without the DVDs or full articles): Savingsons.org/p/info-pack.html

Informational items: Savingsons.org/p/info-cards.html

Questions? 

Email SavingSons@gmail.com at any time. We have several clinicians who volunteer their time to field questions, and if we're not able to answer, we'll seek out a place to go for further information.

If you find these resources to be of use, please help support SOS and work we do. We continue solely by volunteers' time and generosity. See current needs at: Savingsons.org/p/sponsor-son-waiting-list.html or give directly: https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=G6VLETWSGSR22




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You Didn't Fail: Thank you for speaking up

By James Ketter © 2016


To all my intactivist friends who know what it is like to try with all your heart to educate expecting parents, to try and spare a child from genital cutting, only to learn later that his parents had him cut anyway...

I thank you. 

You should never, ever feel like YOU failed or did anything wrong.

Let me tell you, as a victim of genital cutting myself, what you did for that baby boy:

You were the only one who spoke for him at his most vulnerable.

Do you know how incredibly HUGE that is?

Do you know how important that will one day be to him?

What it will mean to him?

Let me answer that.

No one spoke out for me.
No one.
Not one single person in my entire family, group of family friends, or even my community spoke even one single word for my sake when I was vulnerable and needed protection.
Not one damn soul.
Not a syllable of protest.

YOU didn't stay silent.

YOU cared enough to make your feelings and facts known.

You were the person who put the needs of those babies ahead of your own.

You were the only one who truly granted them their humanity.

Do you know what I would give to have just one person in my life to have given me a gift like that? Just one single person in my family, or my community, who wasn't complicit, silent, or uninterested in my fate at as a human being. Do you know what it would mean to me to have just one single person in my life who actually TRIED to save me? It would mean the world.

I actually have tears in my eyes thinking about this. I have no one who even tried to speak for me. To everyone else I was nothing more than disposable property. I would kill to have someone like you in my life. Someone who cared. Even if she didn't succeed in saving me. Just to know one single person cared enough to try might be enough to change things for me immeasurably.

You didn't fail.

You are a HERO.

I love you for speaking out. I thank you from the bottom of my heart for trying so hard. You've given those poor boys a voice when they had none. And that means so much more than you can possibly imagine.



Also by James Ketter:

Foreskin is Better: From a man who has experienced both
SavingSons.org/2016/04/foreskin-is-better-from-man-who-has.html

I Researched Circumcision! ...Did you REALLY?
SavingSons.org/2014/10/i-researched-circumcision-did-you-really.html

Meatal Stenosis: Growing up with circumcision pain
SavingSons.org/2014/09/meatal-stenosis-growing-up-with.html


Related Reading:

Why I Speak Up
SavingSons.org/2012/05/why-i-speak-up.html

You Made a Difference for That ONE
SavingSons.org/2010/01/you-made-difference-for-that-one.html

Example Letter for a Friend
SavingSons.org/2014/03/example-letter-for-friend-relative.html

Carding a Store: Tips for Effective Seed Planting
SavingSons.org/2015/01/carding-store-tips-and-locations-for.html

I tried (MGM Memorial)
SavingSons.org/2007/01/mgm-memorial.html



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The biggest lie told to parents...


Kathy, an R.N. in a major East Coast hospital writes:

One of the biggest lies we've been telling parents for years is, "Babies just don't like being held down." That is so far from the truth. They scream bloody murder, or pass out from the extreme pain of circumcision.


Related reading:

If this stained circumstraint could talk:
SavingSons.org/2012/06/if-this-stained-circumstraint-could.html

On the ethics of registered nurses assisting in infant circumcision:
DrMomma.org/2014/04/on-ethics-of-registered-nurses.html

The Plastibell Lie:
SavingSons.org/2012/03/plastibell-lie.html

The day I withdrew from nursing school:
DrMomma.org/2010/01/day-i-withdrew-from-nursing-school.html

Circumcision: a male R.N.'s perspective:
DrMomma.org/2010/03/circumcision-male-rns-perspective.html

If you're a nurse in practice today, or would like to share past experiences, write to SavingSons@gmail.com Your identity will be kept private.

Foreskin is NOT Garbage! Stickering Trash Bins and Raising Awareness



A new, power-packed little sticker has hit the press, and this time it is specifically for use on trash and recycling bins! The unique idea surfaced when Liz Biggs took a walk around the city with her husband, hand full of stickers, looking for appropriate places to plant them (matching each sticker's theme with its location). Noticing the large trash bins she immediately said, "I'd like a sticker that reads, 'Foreskin is not garbage!'" Her husband loved the idea, and they started to put the pieces together for its creation as soon as they arrived home.

It is a fitting message, indeed. Too often people assume that the prepuce [foreskin] is 'just a piece of skin' - something that could be discarded without notice and never missed. Certainly the majority of parents who opt for infant circumcision are unaware of just how valuable and necessary this organ is for normal development through childhood, and sexual functioning during adulthood. The foreskin is NOT garbage; in fact, it is very valuable!

In a morbid twist, those who amputate the prepuce from newborn babies know this to be true. While some may toss the severed organ into the hospital disposal, many other institutions sell infant foreskin for use in research, generation of new skin for burn victims, or powerful anti-aging lotions and cremes used in high end cosmetics, such as SkinMedica. The foreskin is also a valuable commodity online - with markets in which it can be purchased by anyone with the cash to do so.


The stealing of foreskin from its owner (most often from a newborn baby who cannot yet speak for himself beyond his screams of agony) is one reason Liz' husband, Ron, became involved in the genital autonomy movement. He had his foreskin stolen at birth.

"I have always been unhappy that my genitals were cut at birth," Ron says. "As a child, I would hide under the stairs and look at my scar and cry. It would peel, and my skin bridge would bleed. After finding the movement online it brought back all those feelings again. I was depressed over it for a while, and knew I had to speak out."

Ron and Liz became involved in seed-planting across their area, raising awareness and leading people back to intact information so that babies all across their city are spared the same struggles and loss that Ron survived. They use stampers, stickers, cards, signs and other forms of awareness raising, and reach hundreds each month in the process. Ron continues, "This has been theraputic for me as I know my direct actions will save others from this pain."

Ron and Liz initially produced 6,000 stickers that are making their way to advocates across the U.S. and Canada. As the "NOT GARBAGE" stickers are dispersed, Ron says, "We would love to see these stickers on every garbage can and dumpster in North America. It is a tall order, but if we all work together our message will be out in plain sight for all to see." You can help make this a reality, and order a set of your own here: SavingSons.org/2016/02/intact-info-stickers.html

If even ONE baby is spared the same pain, bleeding, emotional and physical scars that Ron and millions of other men have had to endure, these efforts will be worth it. We know that through outreach efforts such as this, the realities are that thousands will come to find the information they need before their baby is born, and as a result, not one, but countless, will grow up with intact genitals and respected autonomy.

Ron concludes, "We can do this. We can stop infant circumcision! We have already woke up so many people. My advice to new advocates is to learn as much about circumcision [and the foreskin] as you can. Know your facts and speak out. The circumcision game likes to hide in the shadows. It is time to shine the light right on it."

Got Foreskin? graphic originally by Intact Quad Cities
Volunteer with your local chapter: SavingSons.org/p/local-chapters.html

Related Reading:

Foreskin and its 16+ Functions: SavingSons.org/2015/09/foreskin-and-its-16-functions-not-just.html

Circumcision: The Elephant in the Hospital (Georgetown University Lecture): http://www.library.georgetown.edu/gelardin/showcase/entries/circumcision-elephant-hospital

Foreskin Sale! http://www.atcc.org/ATCCAdvancedCatalogSearch/ProductDetails/tabid/452/Default.aspx?ATCCNum=PCS-110-010&Template=primaryCells

German Factory Uses Foreskin to Grow Human Skin: DrMomma.org/2011/12/german-factory-uses-infant-foreskin-to.html

Foreskin Facecream: http://thetyee.ca/Views/2007/01/30/Foreskin/

Are Foreskins the New Botox? DrMomma.org/2010/04/article-asks-are-infant-foreskins-new.html

Stealing Foreskin: The Science of Skin Grafting: DrMomma.org/2009/12/stealing-foreskins-science-of-skin.html 

The Foreskin in Oprah's Facecream: DrMomma.org/2009/10/foreskins-in-oprahs-facecream.html

Circumcision Profit Flow Chart: https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=478443478841445&set=a.324857987533329.82696.166998263319303

Are YOU Paying for Infant Circumcision? DrMomma.org/2010/12/are-you-paying-for-infant-circumcision.html

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What I thought circumcision was...




A Saving Our Sons reader passed this onto us with a note, "I've been wanting to draw this for a while now. Look at how ridiculous my mental image of circumcision was! I can't be the only one..."

When a cutting culture constantly reiterates to people that the foreskin is "just a flap of skin" and that the process of circumcision is "just a snip" this is the mental image that is created. Believing such myths is common, and not far fetched given the way that North American society presents such things. 

The reality is that the foreskin is rich with purpose and reason for being - this organ is vital to normal development in infancy and childhood, and sexual functioning in adulthood. 



The reality is that circumcision is the most brutal way to bring a baby into the world - it is a horrific and painful assault upon the sensitive body of a newborn. An ordeal most adults would barely survive... 





Left: normal intact baby boys
Right Top: circumcised via Plastibell
Right Bottom: circumcised via Gomco

Postcards available for teaching purposes here:

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Foreskin is Better: From a man who has experienced both

By James Ketter © 2016

I've restored my foreskin.

I cannot restore the lost nerve endings.
I cannot restore the lost blood flow.
I cannot restore the extremely sensitive and vital penile frenulum, or the sexually vital ridged band.

What I have restored is the protective covering and the rolling gliding action of my lost body part. I can tell you unequivocally, having a foreskin with only partial function is vastly more pleasurable, comfortable and satisfying than remaining in the circumcised state.

I know 100% what the circumcised male goes through. The painful erections because of the tight skin. The lack of fine touch sensors making me completely blind to the subtle sexual signals of my partner. Watching my partner wince in pain when my dry member scrapes her vaginal walls because I lack the frictionless rolling bearing that was my foreskin, my missing contribution to our shared need for comfortable sex.

I know what it feels like to suffer from a narrow urethra and meatal stenosis because my exposed glans rubbed the inside of my clothes non-stop throughout the day.

Foreskin is better. 

Light years better. No one should ever have had the right to take this from me. It is MY BODY. It is, and always was, my choice about sexual body modifications. I would no more have agreed to be circumcised than I would have agreed to have the ends of my fingers cut off.

The only reason a man can claim he is cut and he is fine (something I used to cowardly claim as well) is if he never investigates what he is actually missing, and if he blindly accepts the symptoms of genital cutting as the price of being male. The moment he learns that painful and difficult sex is not how he was born, and he learns exactly what he was denied, will be the exact moment he will turn on the people who cut him and demand an explanation.

More and more men are learning the truth each and every day. More and more men are demanding that it is their body and it should be their choice. Circumcision is a sexual body modification that takes the best part of the penis and replaces it with a dry and numb scar.

The future is intact.

It is time to decide if you are on the side of history that honors a person's right to choose what happens to their own body [body autonomy], or the side of history that will be condemned to the dark corners of the history books -- the parts we read and stare at in wonder, not able to understand how human beings could ever be so stupid and cruel.


Read more from Ketter: 

I Researched Circumcision! ...Did you REALLY?
SavingSons.org/2014/10/i-researched-circumcision-did-you-really.html

Meatal Stenosis: Growing up with circumcision pain
SavingSons.org/2014/09/meatal-stenosis-growing-up-with.html

Related reading: 

To the Happily Circumcised American Man
SavingSons.org/2013/06/to-happily-circumcised-american-man.html

Foreskin and its 16+ Functions
SavingSons.org/2015/09/foreskin-and-its-16-functions-not-just.html

The Lost List (National Organization of Restoring Men)
http://www.norm.org/lost.html

Restoration Resources
SavingSons.org/2009/10/foreskin-restoration.html







My Son Was Born Perfect



My name is Nora and this is my son, Hayden. He's six months old today and has such a big personality already! He's a sweet boy, and has a gentle and caring soul. He loves playing with his kitty and puppy, and he's a big cuddler! Everything is perfect about him and I wish I would've realized it earlier...

My poor baby was mutilated in the hospital at birth when I allowed a doctor to needlessly take a knife to his genitals -- me, his mother, the one who was supposed to protect him.

I don't think I'll ever forgive myself.

When I was pregnant I researched everything: vaccinations, breastfeeding and natural weaning, extended rear-facing, GMOs, attachment parenting, etc., but never circumcision. I actually don't even remember my husband and I 'talking' about whether or not we'd circumcise our son. It was just a simple question for my husband (you know, the one with the penis who doesn't even know what it's like to have foreskin...)

"Are we going circumcise him?" I asked.

And immediately -- with a loud and stern voice he answered, "YES."

That was the end of that conversation for us.

Ever since I started researching and learning, I've come to find out that women have foreskin too - and that the decision of keeping my son intact should have been mine to make, not my husband's. I look at the mistake I made everyday when I change diapers or bathe my son. I think everyday how this will effect him when he's older.

I remember my mom told me once when I was little, "The children always suffer for the ignorant mistakes their parents will make." It never meant anything to me until now... I wish someone would've educated me. I wish someone would've told me to research. I wish I hadn't betrayed my son's trust in me. He was born perfect.


Read more from parents who will be keeping future sons intact: DrMomma.org/2010/05/i-circumcised-my-son-healing-from.html To share your story, email SavingSons@gmail.com



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