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12 INTACT Days of Christmas
Happy Holidays!
While the online Saving Our Sons community has grown to over 90,000, and includes a wide and diverse audience, there is still a very small number handling everything here at 'home base' -- keeping the underlying foundation of SOS a positive, proactive, and pro-intact one.
We operate solely by volunteers and donation, and the past 9+ years are testimony of the baby-saving ripple effect that a small few can have with devotion, action, and a pooling of hearts and resources.
With this in mind, we *love* hearing from families who have found Saving Our Sons over the years and have had their lives touched by SOS in one way or another. It is a blessing to correspond with you, to work together in this global effort, as well as at the grassroots level, and we always look forward to hearing from you. If you are sending greetings at this time of year, we would love to hear from you. ❤
You Didn't Fail: Thank you for speaking up
To all my intactivist friends who know what it is like to try with all your heart to educate expecting parents, to try and spare a child from genital cutting, only to learn later that his parents had him cut anyway...
I thank you.
You should never, ever feel like YOU failed or did anything wrong.
Let me tell you, as a victim of genital cutting myself, what you did for that baby boy:
You were the only one who spoke for him at his most vulnerable.
Do you know how incredibly HUGE that is?
Do you know how important that will one day be to him?
What it will mean to him?
Let me answer that.
No one spoke out for me.
No one.
Not one single person in my entire family, group of family friends, or even my community spoke even one single word for my sake when I was vulnerable and needed protection.
Not one damn soul.
Not a syllable of protest.
YOU didn't stay silent.
YOU cared enough to make your feelings and facts known.
You were the person who put the needs of those babies ahead of your own.
You were the only one who truly granted them their humanity.
Do you know what I would give to have just one person in my life to have given me a gift like that? Just one single person in my family, or my community, who wasn't complicit, silent, or uninterested in my fate at as a human being. Do you know what it would mean to me to have just one single person in my life who actually TRIED to save me? It would mean the world.
I actually have tears in my eyes thinking about this. I have no one who even tried to speak for me. To everyone else I was nothing more than disposable property. I would kill to have someone like you in my life. Someone who cared. Even if she didn't succeed in saving me. Just to know one single person cared enough to try might be enough to change things for me immeasurably.
You didn't fail.
You are a HERO.
I love you for speaking out. I thank you from the bottom of my heart for trying so hard. You've given those poor boys a voice when they had none. And that means so much more than you can possibly imagine.
Also by James Ketter:
Foreskin is Better: From a man who has experienced both
http://www.SavingSons.org/2016/04/foreskin-is-better-from-man-who-has.html
I Researched Circumcision! ...Did you REALLY?
http://www.SavingSons.org/2014/10/i-researched-circumcision-did-you-really.html
Meatal Stenosis: Growing up with circumcision pain
http://www.SavingSons.org/2014/09/meatal-stenosis-growing-up-with.html
Related Reading:
Why I Speak Up
http://www.SavingSons.org/2012/05/why-i-speak-up.html
You Made a Difference for That ONE
http://www.SavingSons.org/2010/01/you-made-difference-for-that-one.html
Example Letter for a Friend
http://www.SavingSons.org/2014/03/example-letter-for-friend-relative.html
Carding a Store: Tips for Effective Seed Planting
http://www.SavingSons.org/2015/01/carding-store-tips-and-locations-for.html
I tried (MGM Memorial)
http://www.SavingSons.org/2007/01/mgm-memorial.html
Communities:
Saving Our Sons Community:
FB.com/groups/SavingOurSons
Intact: Healthy, Happy, Whole:
FB.com/groups/IntactHealthy
Intactivists:
FB.com/groups/Intactivists
Peaceful Intact Education:
FB.com/groups/PeacefulEducation
How to put a condom on an intact penis
How to put a condom on an intact penis:
Circumstraint Patent and Origin
An infant immobilizing device particularly suited to the performance of circumcision and other operations upon small infants for which general anesthesia is not necessary or advisable.
...substantially complete immobility is achieved.
[The size is ideal.] This is true since operations of this type are usually performed in the first two weeks of life but not until the infants weight has increased to about seven pounds. It is found, therefore, that a retaining depression 10b cupped approximately to fit an average eight-pound infant will do well for the majority of cases.
While fairly close conformity of the depression walls to the body contour is desirable to minimize freedom of movement of the child, nevertheless a small amount of clearance from the infants body along the depression walls is not objectionable in that regard and is actually preferred to an excessively tight fit creating discomfiture for lack of air circulation around the skin. The walls of the depression should extend well up around the sides of the body members to furnish lateral restraint against physical movement, but should otherwise leave the body exposed as much as possible for access by the surgeon.
FGM Bill of the United States: DrMomma.org/2016/03/female-genital-mutilation-fgm-bill-of.html
Circumstraint Product Description |
Born Perfect Cloth Diaper
We've teamed up with Stink Bombs Cloth Diapers to create the perfect fluff for your little one! The Saving Our Sons Born Perfect cloth diaper is up for pre-sale at a discounted rate of $12.99 February 15 - March 1.
Each colorful, fully adjustable with snaps, pocket diaper comes with one microfiber insert. Shipping is $3 per order (for as many diapers as you'd like). SOS Born Perfect diapers will ship at the conclusion of Genital Integrity Awareness Week (approximately 4 weeks post-presale).
Be sure to include your mailing address when checking out via PayPal, or email this information to SavingSons@gmail.com
If you prefer that PayPal not take 4%, you can send your pre-order as a "Friend or Family" donation to SavingSons@gmail.com on PayPal.com or mail by check or money order to the address below. Include a note or email us with your mailing address.
Add $12.99 per diaper + $3 shipping per order going to the same address when figuring your check-out total. If you are donating beyond the cost of your diaper(s), please include a note. We'd love to hear from you, and will respond via email.
We look forward to seeing your little cutie in their new BORN PERFECT fluff!
From Peaceful Birth to Circumcision Trauma
author of Circumcision: The Painful Dilemma
After the beautiful, peaceful home birth of my 3rd son in 1977:
In the days that follow, my baby sleeps and nurses peacefully and never leaves my side. I had always thought that newborn babies were squalling little bundles of appetite and nerves that did not become cute or enjoyable until they were about two to three months old. But this little baby evokes an ethereal tranquility that I have never seen before. He drifts between sleep and wakefulness and makes little smiles just like the pictures in Dr. Leboyer’s book -- totally happy and trusting of this world.
After his circumcision one week later:
My baby’s screams fill the entire building!
The nurse leads us back into the room.
My baby is lying on the table. A diaper is half around him. The end of his penis is bright red!
There is blood on the diaper!
He is crying pitifully -- a high-pitched wail that I have never heard out of him before.
I pick him up, and embrace his tiny body close to mine. “Oh, no! Don’t hold him like that!” the doctor warns me. I shouldn’t put pressure on his wound. So I cradle him in my arms as the doctor leads us into another room. As soon as we sit down I start to nurse him.
Weeks later, my baby was to start cooing and smiling, like all normal, healthy babies. But I was never to see those beautiful, mystic, Leboyer newborn-baby smiles again. He was past his pain, but my own heart was to ache about this for a long time.
Again and again I was to ask myself, “Why?” Why did I have the courage and resolve to go outside the medical system and have a homebirth, but was unable to question this?
Why was it so important to me to have his birth be totally peaceful in so many ways, with dim lights, soft voices, and no silver nitrate, and then turn around and do this?
Why, when I had been a childbirth educator for several years, when I have gone out of my way to educate and inform myself about so many things concerning birth and babies, when I am probably more knowledgeable about most of these matters than 99% of all parents, did I still know virtually nothing about circumcision...?
Research the functions of foreskin - the reason all babies on earth are born with this organ - and the realities of circumcision.
• Functions of the Foreskin: http://www.DrMomma.org/2009/09/functions-of-foreskin-purposes-of.html
• Intact vs. Circumcised: A Significant Difference in the Adult Penis: http://www.DrMomma.org/2011/08/intact-or-circumcised-significant.html
• Foreskin and its 16+ Functions (not 'just skin'): http://www.SavingSons.org/2015/09/foreskin-and-its-16-functions-not-just.html
Hear from more parents who share their circumcision regret and the aftermath of its impact on their babies: http://www.DrMomma.org/2010/05/i-circumcised-my-son-healing-from.html
All women should feel this...
The creator of this meme remains unknown, but there is powerful cultural mind-change that occurs when we start sharing the real BENEFITS that come to adults - men and their partners - when the body is kept the way it is meant to be for a lifetime. Everyone deserves to experience sexual pleasure in the way they were designed to experience it -- with fully intact genitals for themselves and their partner(s).
Selection of Related Reading:
Male genital cutting and women's sexual health: DrMomma.org/2009/07/how-male-circumcision-impacts-women.html
How Male Circumcision Impacts Your Love Life: DrMomma.org/2009/10/how-male-circumcision-impacts-your-love.html
Hello Orgasm! How foreskin restoration made sex better: SavingSons.org/2013/02/hello-orgasm-how-foreskin-restoration.html
Penis 101: How circumcision changes form and function: DrMomma.org/2009/10/change-in-how-intercourse-works.html
Nawal El Saadawi, Champion for Genital Autonomy of All, Passes Away at Age 89
Nawal El Saadawi, who has been a lifetime warrior to end FGM, passed away today at age 89. Eleven years ago she specifically addressed the topic of ending MGM as well in an interview (below), and repeatedly through her life's work, she expressed that she wholeheartedly believed that the genital cutting of all children was equally as horrific, dangerous, and in need of being stopped. Nawal was a champion for the genital autonomy and protection of all babies and children, regardless of sex or age.
http://www.DrMomma.org/2011/04/male-and-female-circumcision.html
Similar Attitudes and Misconceptions
http://www.DrMomma.org/2010/06/fgmmgm-similar-attitudes-misconceptions.html
History of Female Circumcision in the United States
http://www.DrMomma.org/2009/09/history-of-female-circumcision-in.html
UK Fails to Halt Female Circumcision
http://www.DrMomma.org/2009/12/uk-fails-to-halt-female-genital.html
FGM on the Rise in the United States
http://www.newsweek.com/fgm-rates-have-doubled-us-2004-304773
FGM in United States Fact Sheet
http://www.equalitynow.org/FGM_in_US_FAQ
Women and Girls at Risk in the United States
http://www.prb.org/Publications/Articles/2015/us-fgmc.aspx
America's Underground Female Genital Cutting Crisis
http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2014/06/11/america-s-underground-female-genital-mutilation-crisis.html
Female Genital Cutting is a U.S. Problem Too
http://www.npr.org/sections/goatsandsoda/2015/07/21/424984178/female-genital-mutilation-is-a-u-s-problem-too
Jewish Father, Nev Schulman, of MTV's Catfish Keeping Son Intact
Full Podcast at: https://player.fm/series/failing-upwards-1543907/snippin-dicks-with-mtvs-nev-schulman Minute 14:50-17:05. Note: Adult Language and content that may not be appropriate for all audiences.
Transcript:
J&L = podcast hosts Jimmy and Larry
14:50
Nev: Does anyone still have their thin layer of penis?
J&L: You mean Foreskin.
15:06
Nev: I'm about to have a son any day. My wife could be going into labor right now...
15:40
J&L: So here's the question: are you going to cut your son's d*ck?
Nev: That's the thing - I just assumed yes, because I thought that's what everyone does. There's now a trend --
J&L: An anti-circumcision movement
Nev: YES. A very real thing. People are saying there's no real reason for it. It's genital mutilation. It's traumatic. However, I have heard that circumcision somewhat, or maybe greatly, decreases sensitivity. Which to me would be a great reason for circumcision, because I cannot imagine being more sensitive down there than I already am.
J&L: My cut d*ck feels pretty great. As a man whose had sex before, it feels pretty great...
16:20
Nev: Can you imagine if it felt even better, how hard it would be to not orgasm. But I'm basically letting my wife make the call and it looks like we're going to go UNcircumcised [intact]
J&L: Interesting. Bucking the trend. Well, that IS the trend...
Nev: Right.
J&L: So is your son going to see his father's penis... "What's wrong with my wee-wee, Papa?" That's obviously going to be his first d*ck reference - is your penis. And he's going to look at his and think that he's a f*cking freak.
Nev: I'll have to come up with something. Well, this is just what happened - that skin shriveled up, I got old...
J&L: "I'm the freak!"
Nev: Yeah...
30:35
Nev: I recently watched BirdBox. Have you guys watched that?
J&L: I only like the memes.
Nev: Right. Well, I only watched it because I'm in it for a second. My wife and I are in a painting... so Sandra Bullock's character is an artist. At the beginning of the movie she is working on a big painting, with a bunch of people in it, and me and my wife are in the painting.
J&L: Is that something you'd like to hang...
Nev: No, no...
• MenMatterToo.org/men
• Restoration Resources
• Saving Our Sons Community
• Functions of the Foreskin
• Foreskin and its 16+ Functions (not 'just skin')
• Intact vs. Circumcised: A Significant Difference in the Adult Penis
End note: Being intact and having all one was meant to have through adulthood does increase pleasure, however, it also increases control and ability to self-regulate sexual experience and pleasure for both a man himself, and his partner. It does not lead to premature ejaculation or inability to control oneself - just the opposite. And later in life, post-40s/50s, having the prepuce intact and all that a man is meant to 'bring to the table' allows him to avoid the ubiquitous erectile dysfunctions seen in the United States.
Stamping Cash, Planting Seeds, Saving Babies
Stampers can be used on any paper item that absorbs ink -- US cash is something that is readily seen and not thrown away. 😉 Photos on this page are those that have been shared with Saving Our Sons over the years. To add yours to this album, upload into the Saving Our Sons Community, post at Telegram (t.me/SavingOurSons), MeWe (MeWe.com/join/SavingOurSons), or email SavingSons@gmail.com
YES, it is legal to stamp cash (https://www.stampstampede.org/faq/yes-its-legal/). Stampers can also be used to stamp sticky notes to leave places (inexpensive way to 'card').
Further information and intactivist stampers: http://www.savingsons.org/2016/02/intact-info-stampers.html
At Etsy: https://www.etsy.com/shop/SavingOurSons?section_id=21434063
Child taken on holiday to be circumcised
Forced genital cutting at any age is unethical and damaging for a lifetime. Research the benefits of keeping ALL children intact.