Intact Care and Circumcision Info Pack



In order to make a fully informed decision, having easy access to valid, research-based information is key. Working hand in hand with clinicians who volunteer with Saving Our Sons, we deliver accurate prepuce ('foreskin'), intact care, and circumcision information to any expecting parent or clients of intact conscious practitioners. There are 10 options below for getting material to your expecting friends and family members.



The Full Info Pack

The full SOS info pack includes:  
  • 80 pages of articles and research. This material broaches a wide range of sub-categories within intact literature, and responds to all major myths regarding the prepuce, intact care, and circumcision today. 
  • Complimentary videos on DVD full of helpful, research-based information on the prepuce, its care, and the circumcision decision parents in the U.S. and Canada are allowed to make today.
  • A proper intact care card and sticker for use at a physician's office, daycare, nursery or with a babysitter. We are happy to send along additional intact care cards or stickers at your request. These are 2-sided, full color, glossy, and made with heavy card stock so they can be reused (or laminated and kept handy with your baby's diaper bag). 
  • A National Medical Organizations Statements on Circumcision chart that highlights positions on infant circumcision from a variety of respected groups around the world including those in the U.S., Canada, U.K., Australia, Finland, India and others. 
  • An Intact Celebrities oversized postcard that serves to highlight many of the well known men in U.S. culture who are happily intact for a lifetime (abolishing some of the myths about intact men being socially undesirable). 
  • A Keeping Future Sons Intact card especially for parents who may already have a son who was circumcised. This does not mean future sons cannot remain intact. Many families are raising both circumcised and intact sons, and we hope to support parents in this change of heart. 
  • A "Did You Know?" card full of quick facts about the prepuce, intact care, and circumcision in the U.S. and Canada. 
  • An "Expecting a Boy?" postcard that contains quick go-to resources on the front; circumcision and intact care points on the back.
  • A "Trust His Body" postcard that serves as an encouragement to parents of the perfection with which their son arrives. The back has the functions of the foreskin and intact care information.
  • An "Intact vs. Circumcised Outcome Statistics" postcard that highlights the difference between an intact and circumcised newborn baby; shows a photo of what a circumcised infant looks like both from Plastibell and Gomco clamp, and lists statistics and risk factors both for keeping babies intact, and circumcising.
  • An "Intact vs. Circumcised Adult" postcard that specifies the way the glans must change from being an internal to external organ when circumcision is carried out. This card is also includes restoration information for men who may want to look further into this option. 
  • A "Lost/Found" card that has quick-facts on the functions of the foreskin on one side (things that are lost to circumcision) and the things found with restoration on the back. This card is especially for fathers who may feel their son should 'match' them.
  • A "Restoration" card that has go-to resources for men who may have been circumcised at birth, as well as the large variety of restoration devices available to men today. 
  • A "Breastfeeding/Circumcision" info card that points out the many ways that circumcision can hamper a successful breastfeeding relationship. 
  • A "Congratulations!" card with a wide variety of discussion groups on various topics parents may be interested in (everything from pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding, babywearing, cloth diapering, gentle discipline, raising girls or boys, etc.). 
  • An "Elephant in the Hospital" sticker. Dr. McAllister's entire Georgetown University lecture is included on the DVD with this pack; the sticker is added as an extra encouragement to spark interest and move parents to check things out. 
  • [Optional] Added faith-based information that is relevant to families who are Jewish, Christian, Muslim, Mormon, or Catholic. Please include a note when ordering or email SavingSons@gmail.com for faith-based items to be added. 
  • [Optional] An "HIV/AIDS and Circumcision" card stressing facts that relate to the 2006 HIV trials in Africa, and the myths that have surfaced from those trials in U.S. media. 
  • [Optional] "Did You Know" and Intact Care cards in Spanish
  • Calmoseptine samples: This ointment is the top recommended for use on developing skin. It does not interfere with a baby's natural pH or healthy (protective) microflora, and is perfect for use on babies during diaper days, when irritation or redness is common. It is the most recommended cream by pediatricians volunteering their time with Saving Our Sons, and is the cream we use when leading intact care classes. Calmoseptine can be purchased at most pharmacies around the world, or on Amazon. 
  • Contact information for Saving Our Sons and The INTACT Network volunteers, and follow-up with families who may have additional questions, or wish to talk with an intact friendly physician, educator, or other parents in their local area.
Each of the items in the SOS info pack has been specially selected by a board of individuals who have served in the professional fields of pediatrics, human sexuality, development, birth and education over the past 35 years. Our pack serves to empower parents in making a fully informed decision for their son before birth, and equipping parents with necessary resources for proper intact care after birth. The SOS info pack is perfect to share with friends, family and parents (or parents-to-be), as well as for birth and baby educators, midwives, doulas, and medical professionals to lend to expecting clients.

No profit is made on the info pack. $12.50 goes toward printing, materials publication, and supplies; $6.85 toward Priority shipping (U.S.), $9 (Canada), $12 to other international locations by weight. If you donate more than $19 toward the full info pack, the remainder will go to help other families.

Be certain that your name and mailing address are correct when requesting via PayPal, or email SavingSons@gmail.com separately with mailing information.

REQUEST FULL PACK HERE

By Mail:

 Saving Our Sons
P.O. Box 1302
Virginia Beach, VA 23451
*include email so we can send shipping notice

On Etsy Here


Info Pack Replacement Sets
(for those lending the info pack to clients)

Especially for Educators & Birth Practitioners
Info Pack Replacement Sets
NOTE: Info packs have been updated. New items will be included in the replacement sets.
View each closely on the info cards page.
*International postage more by weight

To U.S. Addresses:
4 Sets = $8 (approximately 60-70 card/postcards total)
6 Sets = $11 (approximately 90-110 cards/postcards total)
10 Sets = $20 (approximately 150-170 cards/postcards total)
20 Sets = $40 (approximately 200-240 cards/postcards total)
REQUEST HERE

Credit card by email: SavingSons@gmail.com

Check by Mail:
Saving Our Sons
PO Box 1302
Virginia Beach, VA 23451

Expecting? Pack

The Expecting? combo packet of informational items is significantly smaller than the full circumcision info pack (no DVDs or full articles), but is perfect for sending to any and all expecting friends/family. Materials are professionally made and serve to plant seeds of information on each of the following topics: circumcision, intact care, breastfeeding, babywearing and healthy baby sleep (i.e. no 'cry it out'). These items are mailed directly from Peaceful Parenting and include a thorough amount of material on circumcision and intact care, while at the same time covering other parenting topics that will impact a baby's life. 'Keeping future sons intact' themed info is included to ensure those who may already have circumcised boys find they have community and can be empowered to make a different decision the next time around. The Expecting? pack can be mailed anonymously - simply include an individual's name and address for shipping, or email SavingSons@gmail.com with this information. Indicate if you would like additional Christian, Jewish, Muslim, Mormon or Catholic items added to the pack.
$5 (materials/postage)

Via email for credit card to SavingSons@gmail.com

By Mail: 
Saving Our Sons
PO Box 1302
Virginia Beach, VA 23451

* Also at Etsy *

Don't Retract Info Packs
For clinicians may be requested here: SavingSons.org/2015/07/retracting-clinician-information-pack.html or by clicking the Don't Retract Pack tab at the top of this website.
Quick Request
($4 to cover materials/postage)
Include your physician's name/mailing address

Breastfeeding Mom's Pack

The Breastfeeding Mom's Info Pack was created to send to an expecting mother who plans to nurse her baby, in situations where you'd like to give her something to meet her needs, plant seeds of intact info, and encourage her in the gentle care of her baby on the way. 

These packs include:
  • 1 'peace love momma milk' bracelet (small or standard size)
  • 5 lanolin samples
  • $5 in Lansinoh coupons
  • 1 Calmoseptine sample
  • 1 'wean me gently' poem and natural weaning facts postcard
  • 2 'thank you for breastfeeding' cards
  • 1 Latch-On card
  • 1 'new parent?' card that specifically has links for those expecting boys
  • 1 feeding-on-cue (no 'cry it out') card
  • 1 breastfeeding/circumcision informational card
  • 1 breastfeeding mini journal, 'how big is a baby's stomach' chart, and helpful tips booklet
  • 1 Expecting a Boy? postcard with quick go-to links on the front and intact/circumcision care on the back
The bracelets are dearly loved by nursing moms everywhere and come in regular adult size, or small size for those with smaller wrists. The lanolin samples and coupons are heartily used and appreciated by new nursing moms. The poem is a favorite (read here) and the informational cards have been useful in leading mothers to more information for many years - saving countless babies along the way. You can view all cards in detail here. Materials/postage: $8


(for narrow/small wrists)

Wondering what breastfeeding has to do with circumcision? View this article with statements from LLLI: http://www.drmomma.org/2012/06/womanly-art-of-breastfeeding.html

Church Blessing Pack
The Church Blessing Pack was created to have items for expecting, new, and nursing mothers in Christian churches. These items are designed to steer people back to intact information, in a way that is welcomed by most churches. The nursing items can be left in your church nursing room, the calmoseptine samples and 'Congratulations' cards can be left by changing tables. Some churches have business card sharing areas for congregation members, that the 'Congratulations' cards are perfect for. The Whole Christian cards and stickers may or may not fit with your church, depending on size and how welcoming it is of information. Some members may be able to plant things anonymously, while others would be known, or need to get permission to share. If these do not work with your church, 'carding' with them at a local Christian bookstore, the Christian books section at Barnes & Noble, or at Target is another great idea.

Church Blessing Pack ($6) includes:
• 10 Lanolin samples
• 10 coupons for $1 off Lansinoh
• 5 Latch on cards
• 15 Congratulations cards
• 5 Whole Christian cards
• 10 Whole Christian stickers
• 8 Calmoseptine packets (good for 2-3 diaper changes each) with stickers
• 2 extra postcards (to give to an expecting friend, or post around town)
Purchase ($6 per pack)

Church Blessing Mini ($4) includes: 
• 5 Lanolin samples
• 5 coupons for $1 off Lansinoh
• 4 Calmoseptine packets (good for 2-3 diaper changes each) with stickers
• 15 Congratulations cards
• 2 extra postcards (to give to an expecting friend, or post around town)
Purchase ($4 per pack)

Hospital Stay Pack
The Hospital Stay Packet includes an assortment of intact care materials - stickers, postcards, and info cards - to put in your baby's chart, have on his bassinet, his wipes container, diaper tabs, or include in your paperwork. Items may also be laminated (paper hole punch the top) to hang as a placard. This packet also includes a few items for awareness raising or seed-planting in the hospital (should you encounter anyone who questions your decision to keep your baby intact; or to drop in the restroom or waiting room for another future parent before you leave). The Hospital Stay Packet does not come with a "Do Not Circumcise / Do Not Retract" baby band, unless you choose this option. These soft/stretchy baby bands can be ordered separately as well, and each one arrives with a small number of cards and stickers as well. https://www.etsy.com/listing/502616895/do-not-retract-do-not-circumcise-baby
$4 per Hospital Stay Pack 

$8 per Hospital Stay Pack + Baby Band

Postcard by Mail
The Expecting a Boy? postcard (with care information on the reverse) and Trust His Body (with functions of the foreskin on the reverse), plus an Elephant in the Hospital and an Intact: Don't Retract! sticker, and a Congratulations! Groups card are sent in a blue envelope to your expecting friend/family member. Your friend will have our contact information for further questions/dialog, but this will be anonymous of who requested (unless you wish to be named, or include a note with the postcards). Email for specific additions or custom mailings. If your friend is Christian, Jewish, or Muslim, we will also include relevant information from others within their faith on circumcision. 

 
Be certain your friend's name/address is included in a note, or email SavingSons@gmail.com with this information.
$1+ donation, please, to help cover postage (becomes 60-cents after PayPal fees)

By email: SavingSons@gmail.com 

By Mail:
Saving Our Sons
PO Box 1302
Virginia Beach, VA 23451

Email or Facebook Message
Information is almost always best received by professional materials in-hands. This sparks further curiosity in a way that leads people to investigate more deeply. The next best thing if you cannot get materials into someone's hands is to email or message them yourself with 1-2 quality links that lead to more information. The resource page at SOS is an effective starting point that has saved many babies: SavingSons.org/2014/12/should-i-circumcise-pros-and-cons-of.html It is also the landing page if you only share the SOS website (SavingSons.org). If you're unable or do not wish to email or message on Facebook yourself, email SavingSons@gmail.com and we will respectfully message your friend, anonymous of who requested.

We send one copy of the Expecting a Boy? postcard via email (pictured above), an intact care/functions of the foreskin postcard, as well as 1-2 quality links that will lead the reader to further information, and are specific to that individual's family/faith/location. Saving Our Sons messages are professional, courteous, and we will get information to your friend/family member and answer any corresponding questions. We will not pester, harass or otherwise bombard your friend. 

Please include the following information when requesting that items be emailed/messaged: 
  • Name
  • Email or Facebook URL
  • Faith-based information (is this person Christian, Jewish, Muslim, Catholic, Mormon, etc.?)
  • Past child information (does this person already have a son who was circumcised?)
  • State or country that this individual lives in (so that we can connect them with a local leader/group for further dialog and connection if they wish) 

For Mom
Send a little love to the baby-saving mom in your life. For a donation of any amount (to cover shipping) we will send your recipient momma a high quality 5x7 magnet that reads, "Thank you, Mom, for saving babies." It is a special little reminder, fitting for the front of her refrigerator door, that her #i2 work does not go unnoticed. Choose between the "Baby Feet" or "Baby Legs" magnet (or both); and include the "Zen" or "Orchids" postcard if you'd like to give a donation in her honor. Each postcard has quick intact facts and stats on back, with a long list of websites for connecting. We will add in a small variety of advocacy materials with your magnet (stickers, pens, cards, bracelets, etc.) for donations over $10. Please include a note with your recipient's name, address, and choice of magnet and postcard, or email this information to SavingSons@gmail.com







Whose Body, Whose Rights? Circumcision Documentary



Whose Body, Whose Rights? Examining the Ethics and Human Rights Issue of Infant Male Circumcision is an award-winning documentary, as seen on PBS, and now available for viewing in full online. Recipient of the Creative Excellence award at the 1996 U.S. International Film and Video Festival, Honorable Mention at the 1996 Philadelphia Film Festival, and Best of Festival at the First Annual Stark Video and Film Festival (1997), this film may be purchased on DVD here.

This program was dedicated in 1995 to the American pioneers who worked to protect boys and girls from genital mutilation: Joseph Lewis, Marilyn Milos, Rosemary Romberg, and Edward Wallerstein.

Copyright © 1995, Dillonwood Productions, 56 minutes, color. Contact Producer: CircHarmSurvey@gmail.com






A note to physicians:




Target Gives Back



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Top 10 Most Read of 2016


We're saying so-long to 2016, and looking ahead with positive aspirations for a fresh, new 2017!

In case you are new to Saving Our Sons, or missed one of these much-appreciated items along the way, the following articles are the 10 most read at SavingSons.org this past year. It is our hope that you find something empowering or useful while you're here at SOS.


















A resource list for parents new to the topic


And the #1 most read item at Saving Our Sons this year is a piece put together by our friend and fellow baby-saver, the late Jonathon Conte. His passing in May 2016 was heartbreaking for so many people whose lives he touched, yet his influence and impact lives on. Note that U.S. hospitals are not required to keep data on newborn genital cutting, and this makes current year-to-year rates difficult to obtain.


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Connect locally and join in discussions: 



Circumcision Regret: The Hardest Conversation With My Son

By Alex Coper © 2016


Circumcision Regret: The Hardest Conversation With My Son


Tonight I had the hardest conversation ever.

My boys, ages 7 and 1, took a bath together (rare), and my oldest son told me that my toddler may have a rash because the end of his penis was pink (a normal shade, I wasn't concerned). He then asked me why his brother's penis 'looked different' from his.

I grimaced, but told him, "When you were a baby, Mommy and Daddy didn't know any better, and the doctor told us it was needed, so we got you circumcised, and I'm very sorry."

He asked what that was, and (not having time to pre-plan my response), I told him that there was 'extra skin' that was cut off his body. He asked why my toddler has this still, and I replied, "Because we found out it is better if you do have it. But it's okay now that you don't -- your penis is fine." [I panicked in this moment because I didn't want my son to think there is something wrong with him.]

He looked at my toddler's penis and said slowly, "That must have hurt..."

I replied, "It did, but the doctor told Mommy and Daddy that it didn't, and we didn't find out until later that he lied to us."

My son thought for a moment, "Daddy has the skin."

"I know," I said. [My husband was circumcised at birth, but has restored.]

"So why did you let the doctor cut mine?"

"I don't know son, we didn't research it, so I didn't know not to. We're very sorry. Now Mommy researches EVERYTHING."

"Did I cry?"

"Probably. I wasn't there, and neither was Daddy. They wouldn't let us see you."

"Did I bleed?"

"Yes..."

I let him think on it, and I could tell he was getting angry. (😢) Very angry.

"Momma, this is my penis. Why did you let them cut me?"

I broke down crying and just apologized over and over...

My son then bent down and gave me a hug, and said, "It's okay Momma. I know you and Daddy didn't know, but I hate that doctor. I want to punch him." I told him that honestly the doctor probably didn't know any better either, but now doctors are learning too. He asked if others had theirs cut, and I told him that many boys do -- as far as I know all of his friends were, because their parents didn't know any better either.

Then he asked if his baby cousin would be, and I said probably. "Mommy tried to talk with them, but they wouldn't listen."

Then it was my son who started crying and saying he wishes they would listen to me...

After I stopped us both (I started crying again too) he asked me if he could see my toddler's 'extra skin.' I told him no - that would pull and hurt him, and that he will pull it on his own when he's old enough. "We don't touch it except to wipe the outside like a finger when he needs it."

He asked what God said, and I told him, "God said to leave babies perfect, but Mommy hadn't read that part of the Bible when you were born." (Easiest way to explain that, I figured.) He asked if doctors had read those things, and I told him that I didn't know if his doctor had or not, but I would assume not.

Then he asked if he could see the 'circus-in-him' (circumcision). I very hesitantly said yes, there are videos of it being done to others... And he said he wanted to see.

So while he was getting ready for bed I dried off my toddler and found an educational video of how the procedure is performed online, and we watched it together.

He said, "It looks painful, but the baby didn't cry." I told him that it was just a demonstration, that I didn't want to hear a baby cry, and didn't think he should either. He said okay -- he just wanted to know how much it hurt him.

I asked him if he remembered when he slammed his fingers in the door (it took off skin), and he said yes. I told him that it hurt worse than that. He got quiet again, and then said he would never 'circus-in-him' his babies. GOOD, I said.

I apologized again, and we hugged. Later on he asked me if girls were cut, and I said no, and he concluded with, "That's not fair that they cut boys but not girls..." I said that's true -- and it is "one reason Mommy and so many others are telling people to not cut anyone." He said okay, and has not spoken about it again.

I wanted to share this experience from our day so that regret parents like me would know what I personally said when the topic came up with my older child, and some of the things he asked of me, to give a better idea of what may also come up in your family. Hopefully this will help in planning what you'd like to say to your own son, so you are more prepared than I was.


Read more from parents raising both intact and circumcised sons at: 
DrMomma.org/2010/05/i-circumcised-my-son-healing-from.html

Explore further information on the topic of genital autonomy and benefits of keeping your son intact:
SavingSons.org/2014/12/should-i-circumcise-pros-and-cons-of.html


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Happy Holidays! #i2


☃ Since Saving Our Sons began in 2008, our efforts have been led by a handful of volunteers and educators striving to empower parents, and make life better for babies (and the children and men they become). While the online SOS community has grown to 83,000+, and includes a wide and diverse number of people, there is still just a small number handling everything here at 'home base' -- and keeping the underlying foundation of SOS a positive, proactive and pro-intact one. It is testimony of the impact and ripple effect that merely a few can have with steadfast devotion, healthy action, and a pouring of hearts and personal resources into the cause.  

With this in mind, we *love* hearing from families who have found SOS over the years and had their lives positively impacted in one way or another. It is a blessing to correspond with you, to work in unison together in this global effort, as well as at the grassroots level, and we always look forward to hearing from you.

If you are sending greetings at this time of year, we would love to hear from you. ❤

Write if you wish to:

Saving Our Sons
P.O. Box 1302
Virginia Beach, VA 23451 

We will write back. :)

❄ Have a blessed holiday season. ❄

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To those who say, 'He is just fine!'

By Sierra Owen © 2016



Dear every person who says 'he was cut and he is just fine,'

-When he was a days old newborn, craving the warmth and smell of his mommy, taken and strapped arm and leg to a cold plastic board, no, he wasn't fine. He was afraid.

-While he lay there, strapped firmly in place, unable to see or hear or feel the safety of his mommy, when his whimpers and cries did not bring her, he wasn't fine. He was alone.

-When the cold metal probe was forced into the membrane between his penis and foreskin, he wasn't fine. He felt every rip and tear.

-When the physician used a scalpel and clamp to cut his sensitive genitals without adequate pain relief of any kind, he wasn't fine. He was in excruciating pain.

-When he was screaming and choking, gasping for air while feeling his genitals ripped, clamped, and cut from his body, he wasn't fine. He had a sugar coated binky shoved in his mouth to stifle his cries.

-When his tiny little body could not handle the pain anymore and went into shock, his screams silenced, but he wasn't fine. He was broken.

-When he was handed back to his beloved mommy, but could still feel the excruciating pain of a fresh open wound on his delicate genitals, bathed in urine with every wet diaper, caked in feces with every bowel movement, he wasn't fine. He was in pain, with no way to know why.

-When he was hungry, but hurting so much that he couldn't bring himself to eat, he wasn't fine. He was suffering.

-When his hungry, painful little body could take no more, he fell asleep, but he wasn't fine. He was depleted.

-With every diaper change, the air hurt his extremely sensitive glans without the protection of his foreskin. He cried, he wasn't fine. He spent months in constant pain.

-When every erection as a small child brought him more pain, with the tightening of scar tissue and the stretching of not enough skin, he wasn't fine. Normal things became painful experiences.

-When he begins having sex, and has no idea of the feelings robbed from him, he isn't fine, he is experiencing a beautiful event in black and white.

-When he finds out he is having a son, and insists his baby be forced to undergo the same cruel experience because 'he had it done and is just fine,' he isn't fine. He is confused, defensive, and in denial. He is angry because how dare anyone tell him that his penis isn't normal! He is angry because he cannot bear to think of himself as damaged. He is angry because his lifelong 'normal' is in question. So he repeats the cycle of pain with a new generation, because pride is too big a pill to swallow, and being different is a terrifying thing. No, he isn't fine. Break the cycle, protect their tiny little bodies. ♂


For additional information see: Should I Circumcise My Son? The Pros and Cons

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