My Son Was Born Perfect

My name is Nora and this is my son, Hayden. He's six months old today and has such a big personality already! He's a sweet boy, and has a gentle and caring soul. He loves playing with his kitty and puppy, and he's a big cuddler! Everything is perfect about him and I wish I would've realized it earlier...

My poor baby was mutilated in the hospital at birth when I allowed a doctor to needlessly take a knife to his genitals -- me, his mother, the one who was supposed to protect him.

I don't think I'll ever forgive myself.

When I was pregnant I researched everything: vaccinations, breastfeeding and natural weaning, extended rear-facing, GMOs, attachment parenting, etc., but never circumcision. I actually don't even remember my husband and I 'talking' about whether or not we'd circumcise our son. It was just a simple question for my husband (you know, the one with the penis who doesn't even know what it's like to have foreskin...)

"Are we going circumcise him?" I asked.

And immediately -- with a loud and stern voice he answered, "YES."

That was the end of that conversation for us.

Ever since I started researching and learning, I've come to find out that women have foreskin too - and that the decision of keeping my son intact should have been mine to make, not my husband's. I look at the mistake I made everyday when I change diapers or bathe my son. I think everyday how this will effect him when he's older.

I remember my mom told me once when I was little, "The children always suffer for the ignorant mistakes their parents will make." It never meant anything to me until now... I wish someone would've educated me. I wish someone would've told me to research. I wish I hadn't betrayed my son's trust in me. He was born perfect.

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  1. You're a wonderful and brave mother! It takes a lot of courage and strength to admit our mistakes as parents. Thank you so much for sharing your story. <3

  2. Your sharing of this story -- especially your courage in taking responsibility and voicing it to help others -- will mean the world to him. It really will. It seems it's the children who grow up with their feelings and realities invalidated who are often harmed the most. We can only do the best we can, and you're doing just that. ♡

  3. I am a regret mom w 2 cut boys. The pain we feel from our ignorance is beyond devistating. I thank GOD every single day for giving me another chance to do what is right with my 5th child. A healthy, happy, and 100% perfect baby boy that entered this world at 9.1lbs on Nov 30, 2013. He is absolutely perfect, no disassembly required!


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