You Didn't Fail: Thank you for speaking up

By James Ketter © 2016


To all my intactivist friends who know what it is like to try with all your heart to educate expecting parents, to try and spare a child from genital cutting, only to learn later that his parents had him cut anyway...

I thank you. 

You should never, ever feel like YOU failed or did anything wrong.

Let me tell you, as a victim of genital cutting myself, what you did for that baby boy:

You were the only one who spoke for him at his most vulnerable.

Do you know how incredibly HUGE that is?

Do you know how important that will one day be to him?

What it will mean to him?

Let me answer that.

No one spoke out for me.
No one.
Not one single person in my entire family, group of family friends, or even my community spoke even one single word for my sake when I was vulnerable and needed protection.
Not one damn soul.
Not a syllable of protest.

YOU didn't stay silent.

YOU cared enough to make your feelings and facts known.

You were the person who put the needs of those babies ahead of your own.

You were the only one who truly granted them their humanity.

Do you know what I would give to have just one person in my life to have given me a gift like that? Just one single person in my family, or my community, who wasn't complicit, silent, or uninterested in my fate at as a human being. Do you know what it would mean to me to have just one single person in my life who actually TRIED to save me? It would mean the world.

I actually have tears in my eyes thinking about this. I have no one who even tried to speak for me. To everyone else I was nothing more than disposable property. I would kill to have someone like you in my life. Someone who cared. Even if she didn't succeed in saving me. Just to know one single person cared enough to try might be enough to change things for me immeasurably.

You didn't fail.

You are a HERO.

I love you for speaking out. I thank you from the bottom of my heart for trying so hard. You've given those poor boys a voice when they had none. And that means so much more than you can possibly imagine.

"Any time you speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves, you are heroically impacting lives and changing the world." -Danelle Day

Also by James Ketter:

Foreskin is Better: From a man who has experienced both
http://www.SavingSons.org/2016/04/foreskin-is-better-from-man-who-has.html

I Researched Circumcision! ...Did you REALLY?
http://www.SavingSons.org/2014/10/i-researched-circumcision-did-you-really.html

Meatal Stenosis: Growing up with circumcision pain
http://www.SavingSons.org/2014/09/meatal-stenosis-growing-up-with.html


Related Reading:

Why I Speak Up
http://www.SavingSons.org/2012/05/why-i-speak-up.html

You Made a Difference for That ONE
http://www.SavingSons.org/2010/01/you-made-difference-for-that-one.html

Example Letter for a Friend
http://www.SavingSons.org/2014/03/example-letter-for-friend-relative.html

Carding a Store: Tips for Effective Seed Planting
http://www.SavingSons.org/2015/01/carding-store-tips-and-locations-for.html

I tried (MGM Memorial)
http://www.SavingSons.org/2007/01/mgm-memorial.html


Communities:

Saving Our Sons Community:
FB.com/groups/SavingOurSons

Intact: Healthy, Happy, Whole:
FB.com/groups/IntactHealthy

Intactivists:
FB.com/groups/Intactivists

Peaceful Intact Education:
FB.com/groups/PeacefulEducation



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Breastfeeding and Circumcision Resources


Keep calm. Latch on. And keep him INTACT.

August 1-7 is World Breastfeeding Week and is the perfect opportunity for outreach with mothers who wish to nurse their babies to be born this year. Being honest, and fully disclosing the hazards that genital cutting often poses for a breastfeeding relationship is key to parents making informed decisions for the sake of their son. Here we highlight a variety of resources that relate to the intersecting topics, as well as showcase some images that have been used during past years for awareness-raising.

Happy World Breastfeeding Week! And thank you for saving our sons. ❤

• Breastfeeding and Circumcision: http://www.DrMomma.org/2009/11/breastfeeding-circumcision.html

• La Leche League: The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding on Circumcision: http://www.DrMomma.org/2012/06/womanly-art-of-breastfeeding.html

• The Effects of Circumcision on Breastfeeding: http://ww.DrMomma.org/2009/12/effects-of-circumcision-on.html

• Natural Mother Magazine publication: Circumcision Harms Breastfeeding (p. 103-107): https://issuu.com/naturalmothermagazine/docs/march_april_2015_issue


• Circumcision Increases Breastfeeding Complications: http://www.DrMomma.org/2009/11/circumcision-leads-to-breastfeeding.html

• Breastfeeding / Circumcision Info Cards to share: https://www.etsy.com/listing/496041345/breastfeeding-circumcision-info-cards?ref=shop_home_active_4

• Circumcision and Breastfeeding [Circumstitions] Circumstitions.com/Nursing.html

• Circumcision, Breastfeeding and Bonding [CIRP] Cirp.org/library/birth

• Circumcision / Breastfeeding advocacy shirts: http://madebymomma.spreadshirt.com/breastfeeding-C46979/p2

• Breastfeeding Group (with pro-intact foundation): FB.com/groups/Breastfed





There's nothing quite so yummy as warm milk from my mummy.

A successful breastfeeding relationship best begins when a newborn feels secure, comforted, and close to his mother.

circumcision harms breastfeeding




Breastfeeding awareness and advocacy t-shirts and onesies without mark-up at Made By Momma: MadeByMomma.spreadshirt.com/breastfeeding-C46979



Breastfeeding delivers the protection against urinary tract infection (UTI) that has been touted as a faulty 'benefit' of circumcision. Breastfeeding prevents UTIs - circumcision does not!


In my womb, I carried you.
With my breast, I fed you.
And with every fiber of my being,
I will protect you.


Breastfeeding is the biological norm.
So is intact foreskin!


Success at the breast starts with a peaceful beginning. 
Keep him safe and intact.


A baby belongs on a breast, and in a bed, NOT on a board.
Practice peaceful parenting - say NO to circumcision.


Breastfeeding provides him with everything he needs - nutrients, closeness, and protection against diseases and infections, including UTIs. The stress of circumcision can jeopardize your breastfeeding relationship and rob him of all these things. Reconsider, and learn more: IntactBaby.org/research


The trauma of circumcision can negatively impact his ability to breastfeed. Are you willing to sacrifice your breastfeeding relationship for an unnecessary (and harmful) surgery?


A newborn baby only has three needs: warmth, milk, comfort. Breastfeeding supplies all three. Circumcision can hinder each.


Skin to skin. Heart to heart. Only gentleness, from the start.


Breastfeeding is universally recommended by all medical and health organizations.
Routine infant circumcision is not recommended by any national health organization in the world.


"An innocent human being was solely dependent on me!" - Tichina Arnold
Breastfeeding and genital autonomy go hand-in-hand.


Breastfeeding for all. Circumcision for none.


"What I have been told is it's important to have that bonding latch right away." -Alicia Silverstone who is also pro-intact in her stance on the gentle care and raising of babies.


"While breastfeeding may not seem to be the right choice for every parent, it is the best choice for every baby." -Amy Sprangler  Being kept intact is also best for EVERY baby!


World Breastfeeding Week: Aug 1-7
ALL pediatric organizations in the world recommend breastfeeding.
NO pediatric health organization in the world recommends infant circumcision.

International Breastfeeding Symbol (copyright free):

International Genital Autonomy Symbol (copyright free): 
GenitalAutonomySymbol.org

Breastfeeding Mom's pack with intact materials available to send (directly or anonymously) at Etsy
See Etsy item description for updates on what is included in this Breastfeeding / Intact info pack.


Retired links from years past:

The Big Breastfeeding Coverup: Circumcision Censorship: http://lifesasaladbar.blogspot.com/2011/06/big-breastfeeding-cover-up-circumcision.html 


LLLI Breastfeeding / Circumcision Information Petition http://www.petitiononline.com/170211FM/petition.html

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May the Foreskin Be With You! Star Wars - Intact Style!

By Erin Dutra
Director, Intact Rhode Island



I have to admit, I have never actually watched an entire Star Wars movie, but my husband is an avid Star Wars fan, so naturally our kids are too. Over the past few years of making Star Wars Halloween costumes and planning Star Wars birthday parties, I've grown familiar with the characters and become a little more into it than I ever would have expected. I find some of the characters cute - (have you seen an ewok? Adorable!) -  and I become a little excited when I see a Yoda shirt or R2-D2 lunchbox in the store.

My son was born on Star Wars Weekend (an event I only know because of my husband: "May the 4th be with you!" and "Revenge of the 5th"). So in honor of my son's birthday, I decided to create a fun, pro-intact meme that fit with the Star Wars theme to share on Facebook. My original idea was, "Your little Jedi needs his whole lightsaber" ...and then several other ideas started to surface. Soon, I was cracking myself up with witty slogans - I may not be a true Star Wars fan, but I'm clearly a true nerd!

Once I had a handful of graphics created, I could not choose just one for my son's birthday, so I declared the entire week leading up to May the 4th "Intact Rhode Island's Star Wars WEEK." It has been so much fun seeing the response these graphics (and the accompanying informative links) have received. Over the course of the past week they have reached tens of thousands of individuals on Facebook and Pinterest, and have been shared by hundreds. Clearly, there are a lot of Star Wars fans out there, and many of them support leaving babies intact!

I think it's awesome that so many people, who may not otherwise be interested in learning about the benefits of remaining intact and the detriments of circumcision, will be intrigued by fun Star Wars images popping up in their newsfeed and will discover some important information in the process.









Learn more from Erin and her Star Wars Fun Family at Intact Rhode Island.

If you have an Intact Star Wars themed photo you'd like to share, send to SavingSons@gmail.com and we'll include it here as well. ツ

May the Foreskin Be With You

via SOS' WA chapter, Intact Washington

My face when someone says they are circumcising...
Baby Yoda • IntactBaby.org/research

Baby Yoda via IntactBaby.org

When you tell them to research the foreskin, and then watch them discover the truth about circumcision.
Baby Yoda • IntactBaby.org/research

via SOS' MI chapter, Intact Michigan

"May the FORESKIN be with you!"
~Ginger's little sweetie of Intact Wyoming

Christina's cutie, of Intact Iowa, plays in the May 4th sun in his Rumpkinz May the foreskin be with you cloth custom!

Mandi of Intact Michigan writes,
"I tried snapping a picture while my son was awake, but this little guy is a mover and a shaker, so I had to wait until he passed out. May the foreskin be with you!"

May The Foreskin Be With You T-shirts
Made By Momma tee sported by Jess at Intact Michigan today.
"May the Fourth be with you. And enjoy the Revenge of the Fifth!"

Further Intact Star Wars memes from Kristina of Intact Houston:





2018 Remake via Intact Rhode Island -
Use the foreskin, Luke!
Use the Foreskin, Luke!
Wishing you a Happy 4th!




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