This postcard was shared at PostSecret yesterday, and this individual may or may not realize that they are far from alone... The organs of the human body have a purpose - each and every one. It is not strange, or shameful, to be turned on by the intact male body, after all, that is precisely as it was meant to be.
This individual's second secret - "I wish my fiancé had one" - is also not uncommon. Just as there is a mourning of loss (and sometimes anger, resentment, remorse) when a man discovers the full truth of all that was taken from him, his partner goes through a similar (yet different) process of dealing with a sex life, and a loved one, who was not allowed to have it all. Love for this man is no less powerful, they are no less 'sexy.' But until we can talk about what is lost to MGM, really wrap our heads around it, and have conversations about how this impacts all parties involved, we're not able to move forward, look at our options (restoration, perhaps?) and ensure we end the cycle of stealing foreskin from future men, and those they come to love...
Related Reading:
Purposes of the Prepuce: http://www.drmomma.org/2009/09/functions-of-foreskin-purposes-of.html
Penis 101: http://www.drmomma.org/2009/10/change-in-how-intercourse-works.html
Intact vs. Circumcised: A Significant Difference: http://www.drmomma.org/2011/08/intact-or-circumcised-significant.html
The Lost List: http://www.norm.org/lost.html
Restoration Resources: http://www.savingsons.org/2009/10/foreskin-restoration.html
Male Circumcision & Women's Sexual Health (resource list): http://www.drmomma.org/2009/07/how-male-circumcision-impacts-women.html
How Circumcision Impacts Your Love Life: http://www.drmomma.org/2009/10/how-male-circumcision-impacts-your-love.html
Women Affected by Circumcision (Facebook Page): http://www.facebook.com/womenarevictimstoo
Partners of Restoring Men (Private Facebook Group; PM Saving Our Sons on Facebook to be added): http://www.facebook.com/groups/Restoring/
Want to help shift the attitude about foreskin in our culture today? These info cards were designed with straight, young women in mind (those who make up the majority of future mothers in our nation). The cards were created upon request from a couple librarians who wanted an intact info card that fit with the romance novel and 'sexy magazine' theme, and for hosts of Passion Parties and Pure Romance gatherings.
We've had an overwhelmingly positive response from those who've included them as an awareness raising, or conversation starting, tool in an already sensually-driven setting. They are easy to slip into copies of 50 Shades of Grey at your local store, into the women's magazines that highlight every imaginable article on sex and the male body, quick to leave in the women's restroom when you're out for a night on the town, or to give to a friend and plant some seeds of insight... Together, we can change the thinking on the normal male body, and in turn, spare a future generation of men from having something so important taken from them.
Suggested donation for cards (includes shipping costs):
$3 = set of 25
$6 = set of 50
$10 = set of 100
$20 = set of 200
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I have this issue. My previous fiance was intact and my husband is not. I feel like we're missing out on something and have brought up restoration or even just him trying a false foreskin to see what it's like but he won't and he gets quite angry if the word is even mentioned. I feel bad for even bringing it up. I also feel like the reason he gets angry about it is because deep down he feels like there is something missing too and it makes him angry.
ReplyDeleteI've never minded my hubby's foreskin: it's pretty much all I know in the bedroom. However, the more I learn about the foreskin, the more I love his! It's exactly how we are meant to fit together...no chafing, no extra lube...the gliding action is amazing! Recently, I've become extremely attracted to his foreskin, even after 12 years together...I can't get enough of him!
ReplyDeleteYou might say, "Foreskin saved my marriage!"
Thank you for sharing this. So much is lost with circumcision - a baby's innocence, his choice, and his foreskin. His future sex life is forever altered, his future partners will never get to experience sex with him as nature intended it ... and THIS is why we will fight until the horror of male genital mutilation is but a thing of the past.
ReplyDeleteI feel like this too. Sometimes seeing his scar just makes me want to vomit and cry.
ReplyDeleteI have read for some years internet narratives in this spirit: a woman is an intactivist in part because an earlier relationship with an intact man has made her well aware of how foreskin improves vaginal intercourse. At the same time, she has to deal with the fact that her current partner is cut. Or she is without a partner because all the men in her social circle are cut.
ReplyDeleteWomen who throw caution to the winds and share that they've "been with both kinds" and prefer intact, do our cause a great service. But if they are not currently involved with an intact man, the price they pay for their knowledge includes chronic heartache...
I never knew what I was missing, until I found myself back on the dating scene, and had the chance to experience intact men. What a difference! It works the way its supposed to! BTW, I don't think the intact man is ugly or unsightly. As far as I'm concerned, intact or not, cleanliness is paramount.
ReplyDeleteMy first two boyfriends were intact, and I thought that's how all penises looked. When I saw a circumcised man for the fist time, I was shocked! It looked so gross to me and all I could focus on was that big scar. My husband is circumcised and it has made sex so uncomfortable and robbed me of a lot of pleasure. I'm sure my husband knows no different, but it devastates me to think we can never have a natural sex life. We now have lubrication problems, which has never happened before in my life. We are always on different "rhythms" because he has been desensitized and can't feel pleasure unless he's super rough with me. Instead of us reaching orgasm together, I have to take my turn and then he has to take his turn. What feels good to him does absolutely nothing for me. I miss the natural gliding motion I had with my intact partners... When I mention restoration to my husband, he takes it as an insult that his penis isn't adequate. It devastates me to think what is happening to our boys on a daily basis... Amputating such an important body part without the boys consent... The worst part is, they grow up never knowing what they are missing. It's one of the cruelest things I can think of. Is it selfish for me to want my husband to restore his foreskin? Do I have no choice but to love just the way he is?
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